弟子规圣人训首孝弟次谨信.

1、弟子规总叙(1) 弟子规。圣人训。首孝弟。次谨信。 凡爱众。而亲仁。有余力。则学文。入则孝(2) 父母呼。应勿缓。父母命。行勿懒。 父母教。须敬听。父母责。须顺承。(3) 冬则温。夏则清。晨则省。昏则定 出必告。反必面。居有常。业无变。(4) 事虽小。勿擅为。苟擅为。子道亏。 物虽小。勿私藏。苟私藏。亲心伤。(5) 亲所好。力为具。亲所恶。谨为去。 身有伤。贻亲忧。德有伤。贻亲羞。 亲爱我。孝何难。亲憎我。孝方贤。(6) 亲有过。谏使更。怡吾色。柔吾声。 谏不入。悦复谏。号泣随。达无怨。(7) 亲有疾。药先尝。昼夜待。不离床。 丧三年。常悲咽。居处变。酒肉绝。 丧尽礼。祭尽诚。事死者。如事生。

2、出则弟(8) 兄道友。弟道恭。兄弟睦。孝在中。 财物轻。怨何生。言语忍。忿自泯。(9) 或饮食。或坐走。长者先。幼者后。 长呼人。即代叫。人不在。已即到。(10) 称尊长。勿呼名。对尊长。勿见能。 路遇长。疾行揖。长无言。退恭立。 骑下马。乘下车。过犹待。百步余。(11) 长者立。幼勿坐。长者坐。命乃坐。 尊长前。声要低。低不闻。去啡宜。 进必。退必迟。问起对。视勿移。(12) 事诸父。如事父。事诸兄。如事兄。(13) 朝起早。夜眠迟。老易至。惜此时。 晨必盥。兼漱口。便溺回。辄洗手。(14) 冠必正。纽必节。袜与履。俱紧切。 置冠服。有定位。勿乱顿。致污秽。(15) 衣贵洁。不贵华。上循分。

3、下 家。 对饮食。勿拣择。食适可。勿过则。 年方少。少饮酒。饮酒醉。最为丑。(16) 步从容。立端正。揖深圆。拜恭敬。勿践或。勿跛倚。勿箕踞。勿摇。(17) 缓揭帘。勿有声。宽转弯。勿触棱。 执虚器。如执盈。入虚室。如有人。 事勿忙。忙多错。勿畏难。勿轻略。 门闹场。绝勿近。邪僻事。绝勿问。(18) 将入门。问孰存。将上堂。声必扬。 人问谁。对以名。吾与我。不分明。 用人物。须明求。倘不问。即为偷。 借人物。及时还。后有急。借不难。(19) 凡出言信为先诈与妄.奚可焉. 话说多不如少惟其是勿佞巧. 奸巧语秽污词市井气切戒之(20) 见未真勿轻言知未的勿轻传 事非宜勿轻诺苟轻诺进退难 凡道字重且

4、舒勿急疾勿模糊 彼说长此说短不关己莫闲管(21) 见人善即思齐纵去远以渐跻 见人恶即内省有则改无加警(22) 唯德学唯才艺不如人当自励若衣服.若饮食不如人勿生戚(23) 闻过怒.闻誉乐 闻誉恐.闻过欣.损友来益友却.直谅士 渐相亲.(24) 无心非.名为错 过能改.归于无.有心非名为恶.倘掩饰.增一辜.泛爱众(25) 凡是人.皆须爱.天同覆.地同载.(26) 行高者.名自高.人所重.非貌高. 才大者.望自大人所服非言大.己有能.勿自私.人所能.勿轻訾. 勿谄富.勿骄贫.勿厌故.勿喜新. 人不闲.勿事搅人不安勿话扰(27) 人有短.切莫揭人有私.切莫说. 道人善即是善人知之愈思勉. 扬人恶即是恶

5、疾之甚祸且作. 善相劝德皆建过不规道两亏(28) 凡取舆贵分晓舆宜多即速已将加人先问己己不欲即速已恩欲报怨欲忘抱怨短报恩长(29) 待婢仆 身贵端虽贵端慈而宽势服人.心不然.理服人方无言亲仁(30) 同是人.类不齐.流俗众.仁者希 果仁者.人多畏.言不讳色不媚 能亲仁.无限好.德日进.过日少 不亲仁.无限害.小人进百事坏余力学文(31) 不力行.但学文.长浮华.成何人 但力行.不学文任己见昧理真(32) 读书法.有三到.心眼口 .信皆要.方读此勿慕彼.此未终彼勿起宽为限.紧用功工夫到.滞塞通心有疑随札记就人问求确义(33) 房室清.墙壁净.几案洁.笔砚正.墨磨偏.心不端.字不敬.心先病.列典籍

6、.有定处.读看毕还原处虽有急.卷束齐.有缺坏就补之非圣贤屏勿视.蔽聪明坏心志.勿自暴.勿自弃.圣与贤可驯致.DI ZI GUIGUIDE TO A HAPPY LIFEOutlineDI ZI GUI or Stan dards for Being a Good Stude nt and Child is a book that was taught by Chin ese saints and sages of the ancient past. The book first teaches us how to be dutiful to our pare nts, and how to b

7、e respectful and loving to our siblings. It then teaches us how to be cautious with all people, matters, and objects in our daily lives; how to be a trustworthy pers on; and to believe in the teach ings of the an cie nt saints and sages.Furthermore, it teaches us to love all equally, and to be close

8、 to and lear n from people of virtue and compassi on. Only whe n we have accomplished all the above can we the n study further and learn literature and art to improve the quality of our cultural and spiritual lives.Chapter 1At Home, Be Dutiful to My ParentsWhen my pare nts call me, I will an swer th

9、em right away. When they ask me to do somethi ng, I will do it quickly. When my pare nts in struct me, I will liste n respectfully. When my pare nts in struct me, I will obey and accept their scoldi ng. I will try hard to cha nge and improve myself, to start an ew.In the win ter, I will keep my pare

10、 nts warm; in the summer, I will keep my pare nts cool. I will always greet my pare nts in the morni ng to show them that I care. At ni ght I will always make sure my pare nts rest well. Before going out, I must tell my pare nts where I am going, for pare nts are always concerned about their childre

11、 n. After retur ning home, I must go and see my pare nts to let them know I am back, so they do not worry about me. I will mai ntai n a perma nent place to stay and lead a routi ne life. I will persist in whatever I do and will not cha nge my aspiratio n at will.A matter might be trivial, but if it

12、is wrong to do it or un fair to ano ther pers on, I must not do it thinking it will bear little or no con seque nee. If I do, I am not being a dutiful child because my pare nts would not want to see me doing things that are irrati onal or illegal. Even though an object might be small, I will not kee

13、p it a secret from my pare nts. If I do, I will hurt my pare nts ' feeli ngs.If whatever pleases my pare nts is fair and reas on able, I will try my best to atta in it for them.Ifsometh ing displeases my pare nts, if with in reas on I will cautiously keep it away from them. When my body is hurt,

14、 my pare nts will be worried. If my virtues are compromised, my pare nts will feel ashamed. When I have lovi ng pare nts, it is not difficult to be dutiful to them. But if I can be dutiful to pare nts who hate me, only the n will I meet the sta ndards of the saintsand sages for being a dutiful child

15、.When my pare nts do wron g, I will urge them to cha nge. I will do it with a kind facial expressi on and a warm gen tle voice. If they do not accept my advice, I will wait un til they are in a happier mood before I attempt to dissuade them again, followed by crying, if necessary, to make them un de

16、rsta nd. If they end up whipp ing me I will not hold a grudge aga inst them.When my pare nts are ill, I will taste the medici ne before givi ng it to them. I will take care of them ni ght and day and stay by their bedside. During the first three years of mour ning after my pare nts have passed away,

17、 I will remember them with gratitude and feel sad often for not being able to repay them for their kindn ess in rais ing me. During this period I will arra nge my home to reflect my grief and sorrow. I will also avoid festivities and in dulge nee in food and alcoholic drin ks. I will observe proper

18、etiquette in arranging my parents ' funerals. I will hold the memorial ceremony and commemorate my parents' anniversaries with utmost sincerity. I will serve my departed pare nts as if they were still alive.Chapter 2Standards for a Younger Brother When Away from HomeIf I am the older sibling

19、, I will befriend the younger ones. If I am the younger sibling, I will respect and love the older on es. Only whe n I can maintain harm onious relati on ships with my sibli ngs am I being dutiful to my pare nts. When I value my familial ties more tha n property and bel ongin gs, no rese ntme nt wil

20、l come betwee n me and my sibli ngs. When I am careful with words and hold back hurtful comme nts, my feeli ngs of an ger n aturally die out.Whether I am drinking, eati ng, walk ing, or sitti ng, I will let the elders go first; the youn ger ones should follow. When an elder is ask ing for some on e,

21、 I will get that pers on for him right away. if I cannot find that person, I will immediately report back, and put myself at the elder f service in stead.When I address and elder, I should not call him by his give n n ame. This is in accord with an cie nt Chin ese etiquette. In front of an elder, I

22、will n ever show off. If I meet an elder I know on the street, I will promptly clasp my hands and greet him with a bow. If he does not speak to me, I will step back and respectfully sta nd aside. Should I be ridi ng a horse and spot an elder I know walk in g, I will dism ount and pay respect to the

23、elder. If I am ridi ng in a carriage, I will stop, get out of the carriage, and ask if I can give the elder a ride. If I meet an elder pass ing by, I will sta nd aside and wait respectfully. I will no t leave un til the elder disappears form my sight.When an elder is sta ndin g, I will not sit. Afte

24、r an elder sits dow n, I sit only whe n I am told to do so. Before an elder, I will speak softly. But if my voice is too low and hard to hear, it is not appropriate. When meeti ng an elder, I will walk briskly towards him; whe n leavi ng, I will not exit in haste. When an sweri ng a questi on, I wil

25、l look at the pers on who is ask ing me the questi on.I will serve my un cles as if I am serv ing my pare nts. I will treat my cous ins as if they are my own sibli ngs.Chapter 3Be Cautious in My Daily LifeI will get up each morning before my pare nts; at ni ght, I will go to bed only after my pare n

26、ts have gone to sleep. When I realize that time is pass ing me by and cannot be turned back, and that I am getting older year by year, I will especially treasure the present moment. When I get up in the mornin g, I will wash my face and brush my teeth. After using the toilet, I will always wash my h

27、an ds.I must wear my hat straight, and make sure the hooks of my clothes are tied. My socks and shoes should also be worn neatly and correctly. I will always place my hat and clothes away in their proper places. I will not carelessly throw my clothes around, for that will get them dirty.It is more i

28、mporta nt that my clothes are clea n, rather tha n how extravaga nt they are. I will wear only what is suitable for my station. At home, I will wear clothes according to my family traditi ons and customs. When it comes to eat ing and drinkin g, I will pick and choose my food. I will only eat the rig

29、ht amoun t; I will not over-eat. I am still youn g, I must not drink alcohol, whe n I am drunk, my behavior will tur n ugly.I will always walk composed, with light and even steps. I will always sta nd up straight and tall. My bows will always be deep, with hands held in front and arms roun ded. I wi

30、ll always pay my respect with revere nee. I will not step on doorsills or sta nd lea ning on one leg. I will not sit with my legs apart or sprawled out. I will not rock the lower part of my body while sta nding or sitt ing dow n.I will always lift the curta in slowly, and quietly. I must leave mysel

31、f ample space whe n I turn so I will not bump into a corn er. I will hold empty containers carefully as if they were full. I will en ter empty rooms as if they were occupied. I will avoid doing things in a hurry, as doing things in haste will lead to many mistakes. I should not be afraid of difficul

32、t tasks, and I will not become careless whe n a job is too easy. I will keep away from rowdy places. I will not ask about thi ngs that are abno rmal or unu sual.When I am about to en ter a main entrance, I must first ask if some one is in side. Before en teri ng a room, I must first make myself hear

33、d, so that those in side know some one is approach ing. If some one asks who I am, I must give my n ame. To an swer It is me' or Me 'is not sufficie nt. Before borrowing things from others, I must ask for permission. If I do not ask, it is stealing. When borr owing things from others, I will

34、 retur n them promptly. Later, if I have an urge nt n eed, I will not have a problem borrowi ng from them aga in.Chapter 4Be TrustworthyWhen I speak , hon esty is importa nt. Deceitful words and lies must not be tolerated.Rather tha n talk ing too much ,it is better to speak less. I will speak only

35、the truth, I will not twistWhat I have not see n with my own eyes ,I will not readily tellto others. What I do not know for sure ,I will not easily pass on to others.If I am asked to do someth ing that is in appropriate or bad, I must not agree to it ,if I do ,I will be doubly wrongmust speak clearl

36、y and to the poin t. I must not talk too fast or mumble.Some like to talk about the good points of others, while some like to talk about the faults of others. If it I none of my bus in ess ,I will not get i nvolved.When I see others do good deeds, I must think about follow ing their example. Even th

37、rough my own achieveme nts are still far beh ind those of others, I am getti ng closer.When I see others do wrong . I must immediately reflect upon myself. If I have made the same mistake , I will correct it. If no t, I will take extra care to n ot make the same mistake.When my morals ,conduct, know

38、ledge, and skills seem not as good as those of others, I will en courage myself to be better.If the clothes I wear ,and the food I eat and drink are not as good as that of others , I should not be concern ed.If criticism makes me angry and complime nts make me happy ,bad compa ny will come my way an

39、d good friends will shy away. If I am un easy about complime nts and appreciative of criticism, then sincere, un dersta ndin g, and virtuous people will gradually come close to me .If any mistake I make is in adverte nt, it is merely a mistake. If it is done on purpose, however, it is an evil act. I

40、f I correct my mistake and do not repeat it ,I no Ion ger own the mistake. If I try to cover it up, I will be doubly wrong.Chapter 5Love all equallyHuma n bein gs, regardless of n ati on ality, race ,or religi on-every on e-should be loved equally. We are all sheltered by their same sky and we all l

41、ive on the same pla net Earth.A pers on of high ideals and morals is highly respected. What people value is not based on outside appearanee. A person's outstanding abilities will naturally endow him with a good reputation. Admirati on from others does not come from boasti ng or praisi ng on esel

42、f.If I am a very capable pers on, I should use my capabilities for the ben efit of others.Others people 'compete nee should n ever be sla ndered.I will not flatter the rich , or despise the poor . I will not ignore old frien ds, only tak ing delight in new on es. When a pers on is busy, I will n

43、ot bother him with matters. When a pers on 'mind is not at ease, I will not bother him with words.If a pers on has a shortco min g, I will not expose it. If a pers on has a secret ,1 will not tell others. Praising the goodness of others is good deed in itself. When people are being praised and a

44、pproved of , they will be en couraged to try even harder.Spread ing rumors about the wron gdo ings of others is a wron gdo ing in itself. When the harm done has reached the extreme, misfort unes will surely follow. When I en courage ano ther to do good, both of our virtues are built up. If I do not

45、tell ano ther of his faults, we are both wrong.Whether I take or give, I n eed to know the differe nee betwee n the two. It is better to give more and take less.What I ask others to do ,I must first ask myself if I would be willi ng to do. If it is not someth ing I would be willi ng to do ,I will no

46、t ask others to do it .I must repay the kindn ess of others and let go of my rese ntme nts. I will spe nd less time hold ing grudges and more time pay ing back the kindn ess of others.When I am direct ing maids and serva nts, I will act hono rably and properly. I will also treat them kin dly and gen

47、 erously .If I use my in flue nee to make them submissive, their hearts will not be with me. If I can convince them with sound reas oning, they will have nothing to object to .Chapter 6Be Close to and Learn from People of Virtue and CompassionWe are all huma n, but we are not the same. Most of us ar

48、e ordin ary; only a very few have great virtues and high moral prin ciples. A truly virtuous pers on is greatly respected by others. He will not be afraid to speak the truth and he will not fawn on others. I can be close to and lear n from people of great virtue and compassi on, I will ben efit imme

49、 nsely. My virtues will grow daily and my wron gdo ings will less on day by day. If I choose not to be close to and lear n from people of great virtue, I will suffer a great loss. People without virtue will get close to me and nothing I attempt will succeed.Chapter 7After all the above are accomplis

50、hed, I should study further andlearn literature and art to improve my cultural and spiritual life If I do not actively practice what I have lear ned, but con ti nue to study on the surface, even though my kno wledge is in creas in g, it is only superficial. What kind of pers on will I be? If I do ap

51、ply my kno wledge dilige ntly, but stop study in g, I will only do things based on my own opinion, thinking it is correct. In fact, what I know is not the truth.There are methods to study correctly. They involve concentration in three areas: my mind, myeyes, and my mouth. To believe in what I read i

52、s equally importa nt.When I begi n to read a book, I will not think about ano ther. If I have not completed the book, I will not start ano ther. I will give myself lots of time to study, and I will study hard. If I devote eno ugh time and effort, I will thoroughly un dersta nd. If I have a questi on

53、, I will make a note of it. I will ask the pers on who has the kno wledge for the right an swer.I will keep my room n eat, my walls and un cluttered and clea n ,my desk tidy and my brush and in kst one properly placed.If my ink block is ground unevenl y, it shows I have a poor state of mind. When wo

54、rds are writte n carelessly, show ing no respect, this shows my state of mind has not bee n well. My book should be classified, placed on the bookshelves, and in their proper places. After I finish readi ng a book, I will put it back where it bel on gs.Even if I am in a hurry, I still must n eatly r

55、oll up and bind the ope n bamboo scroll I have bee n readi ng. All miss ing or damaged pages ought to be immediately repaired.If it is not a book on the teaching of the saints and sages, it should be discarded and not even looked at. Such books can block my intelligenee and wisdom, and will undermin

56、e my aspirati ons and sense of direct ion.Neither be harsh on myself, nor give up on myself. To be a pers on of high ideals, moral sta ndards and virtues is someth ing we can all atta in in time.Typed by Rachel Jia ng and Janis Chen (2007CSE SZ team) 2007.5.8DI ZI GUIGUIDE TO A HAPPY LIFE幸福人生指规总序 Ou

57、tline总纲领弟子规圣人训首孝弟次谨信DI ZI GUI or Sta ndards for Being a Good Stude nt and Child is a book that was taught by Chin ese saints and sages of the ancient past. The book first teaches us how to be dutiful to our pare nts, and how to be respectful and loving to our sibli ngs. It the n teaches us how to be

58、 cautious with all people, matters, and objects in our daily lives; how to be a trustworthy pers on; and to believe in the teachi ngs of the an cie nt sai nts and sages.弟子规 是中国古圣先贤的教诲。首先它教导我们该怎么孝顺父母和尊重敬爱 我们的兄弟姐妹。然后它教我们在日常生活中，对所有人、事、物，要如何保持 小心谨慎，要我们做一个有信用的人，教我们要相信古圣先贤的教诲。凡爱众而亲仁有余力则学文Furthermore, it teaches us to love all equally, and to be close to and lear n from people of virtue and compassion. Only when we have accomplished all the above can we then study further and learn literature and art to improve the quality of our cu