《不要说“我失业了” 》

1、不要说“我失业了i love meeting new people, even if it makes me a little nervous. but one set of words that i hear at mixers and networking events makes me really want to run for the hills. you may have uttered these words. and i want to share some alternatives with you, so that youll make more connections,

2、rather than having people dash off.我喜欢认识新朋友，即便这会让我感到有些紧张。但从交友活动中听到的一些话让我真想逃之夭夭。你也许会说出这些话。我希望和你分享一些别的说法，这样你会交到更多的朋友而不是让人们对你避之不及。last night, i attended a fun networking event in berkeley, full of people who are on linkedin. the event was hosted by ilene koehler, who set us up in speed-dating fashion,

3、to mix and mingle for five minutes per “couple, and then move on. i noticed that three of the people i met immediately introduced themselves by saying something like this:昨天晚上，我在伯克利参加了一个有趣的交友活动。很多人是linkedin社交网站的网友。 这次活动的主持人是ilene koehler。她主持我们进展速配约会，每“一对交流五分钟，然后换不同的对象。我发现我见到的人中有三个直接这样介绍自己：“hi. im jo

4、hn doe. and im unemployed.“嗨，我叫john doe，我没工作。shoot, this isnt an aa meeting. but those initial words left me feeling awkward and sorry for my fellow networkers. somehow, i felt obligated, like i was supposed to help out. the energy between us felt heavy. so i actually told one of these networkers, “

5、hey, you shouldnt say your unemployed. say youre between jobs. or tell people that youre looking for a new job in whatever field youd enjoy. he got the point immediately. he smiled. he felt better about himself.晕，这不是一次aa制聚会。这样的开场白让我觉得窘迫，并为同来的人们感到抱歉。不知为什么，我觉得我必须帮助他们。我们两人之间的气氛变得很凝重。于是我告诉其中一位：“嘿，你不必说自己

6、没有工作。说你正在求职。或者告诉别人你正在寻找一份自己喜欢的工作。他立即明白，笑了笑，觉得轻松多了。you see, saying “im unemployed tells people what youre not. and, in this case, it communicates “im not employed. to me, saying “im unemployed sounds a little bit like you dont feel like you fit in with the world. look, my friends,your self-worth is n

7、ot determined by your job.你看，说“没有工作是在告诉别人自己“不是什么。 此时，它传递的是“我没有工作的含义。但是对我而言，它听上去有点像是你觉得自己没有融入这个世界。嗨，朋友们，你的自我价值不是由你的工作决定的。i invite you to consider what really makes up your self-worth-like your caring heart, or your ability to stand tall in the face of adversity. but please know that you are not a social misfit just because some company has not decided to bring you on board. or some organization decided to let you go. a company is not your family, believe it or not. so, if you dont “belong to a company, youre still a living, breathing, talented human being.请你想一想到底是什么构成