优美英语文章帮你成长的10个残酷事实

1、帮你成长的10个残酷事实In the game of life, if it often seems like youre on the losing end of things, youre not alone. Life can be one giant conundrum filled with ups and downs. When you feel like youre experiencing more downs than ups, sometimes it helps to get a little tough love once in a while. Thats why w

2、e put together this list of 10 harsh truths that will help you grow.在人生游戏中，总会感觉自己总在经历失败。你并不是一个人。人生就是一个巨大的谜题，充满了起起伏伏。如果你觉得你经历的失败多余成功，偶尔感受一点严厉之爱也许会有帮助。所以我们总结了会帮助你成长的10个残酷事实。1. Life isnt fair.人生是不公平的Life will hand you lemons, often when you least expect it. The sooner you embrace this harsh truth, the

3、better prepared youll be to handle tough situations that are sure to arise.往往在你最意想不到的时候，人生会让你尝到柠檬的酸味。你越早明白这个残酷的事实，在处理这些必将出现的麻烦事时，你就会准备得越好。Lets face it: changing bad habits is tough. Research proves it. Chinese philosopher Lao Tzu once said, “The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.

4、” So if you want to change something, start with baby steps. Take a small actionany actionand grow from there.让我们面对这个事实：改掉坏习惯非常困难。研究证实了这一点。中国的哲学家老子说过，“千里之行，始于足下。”如果你想要做出改变，就从第一步开始。做出一点小的行动，任何一种行动都行，然后就从这里开始。3. Good things usually dont come quickly.好事情不会来得很快Great accomplishments in our lives normally

5、 dont come easy. And if you think about it, would you have it any other way? Theres a basic psychological principle called instant gratification, which means that we expect to get rewards instantly. But sometimes you need to fight the impulses your brain throws at you and trust that the journey your

6、e on is the right one.我们认识中的伟大成就都来之不易。想想看，你还有别的办法吗？有一个基本的心理学原理，叫做即时满足，意思是我们期待立刻获得回报。但有时候你要和大脑中的这种冲动作斗争，要相信你正在走一条正确的路。4. Not everyone will support you along the way.人生路上不是每个人都会支持你In life, theres no shortage of doubters, haters, and pessimists. Overcoming this harsh truth is simple: dont listen. Choos

7、e to stick with your guns, trust your instincts, and forget about people who dont support your goals and passions.你的人生中从来不缺乏怀疑者、嫉妒者和悲观主义者。克服这个残酷的现实很简单：别听他们的。坚守自己，相信你的直觉，忘掉那些不支持你的目标和激情的人。5. You cant always be in control of everything.你无法永远掌控每件事Listen, letting go is hard, especially if youre a go-gett

8、er. But if you want to continue to grow, there are times when you need to relinquish your control on everything and let things unfold how theyre meant to be. This doesnt mean your mentality for everything should be “wait and hope.” You can still strive for greatness, but put the work in and then let

9、 go with complete faith that the universe will make things right for you. Youll be amazed at how well it works.听着，放手不是件容易的事，尤其如果你还是一个能干的人。但如果你想继续成长，有时候你需要放弃对某些事的掌控，让一切顺其自然。这并不意味着你对待事情的态度是“静观其变”。你依然可以为了成就伟大而奋斗，只不过在努力之后，就可以放手，要相信上天会为你安排妥当。你会惊讶地发现一切都很顺利。6. You cant accomplish great things without takin

10、g great risks.不入虎穴焉得虎子Heres another harsh truth many people have trouble grasping: if you dont take risks you will have a lot harder time accomplishing what you want in life. People who truly change the world are the biggest risk takers. Theyre the ones who are willing to put everything on the line

11、and fail for something they believe in. And they treat each failure as an opportunity to grow and get better.这又是一个很多人不能领会的残酷现实：如果你不能冒险，想实现你所追求的就会更加困难。那些真正改变世界的人都是最大的冒险家。他们情愿让一切出于危险之中，也肯为了他们所信仰的事而失败。他们认为每一次失败都是一次成长、变得更好的机会。7. You may be better off without some of the people you currently care about.没

12、有了你眼下在乎的某些人，你的生活也许更美好This one is tough to hear, I know. But chances are, theres someone in your life you care about deeply who is holding you back. Thats not to say you should give up on the people you love. However, there comes a time when you need to make the tough decision to say no to people who

13、 arent helping you grow.我知道这一点听起来很难以接受。但有可能你生命中某个你特别在乎的人阻碍了你前进。这不是说你要放弃那些你爱的人。可是有时候你需要作出艰难的决定，对那些不能帮助你成长的人说不。8. Death is a part of life.死亡是人生的一部分Nothing can prepare us for the earth-shattering pain of losing a loved one. The harsh truth of life is that its a viscous cycle. However, theres something

14、you can do to make losing someone you love a lot less painful: make them a part of your life right now. Dont put off making that phone call or paying a random visit to a friend or family member you havent seen in a while. Treat every moment with your loved ones as if its your last, and you wont have

15、 any regrets.面对失去所爱之人的巨大痛苦，我们总是无所适从。残酷的现实在于，这是一个黏性的循环。但是你可以做一些事情，让这种痛苦减轻一些：从现在起就让他们成为你人生中的一部分。别推迟给那些好久没见的朋友或家人打电话或者上门拜访。每次和你爱的人们相处时都把它当做是最后一次，这样你就不会有任何遗憾了。9. You are the only thing holding yourself back from greatness.你是自己通向伟大的唯一阻碍Often we get so caught up hoping for the next great thing that we don

16、t realize whats unfolding right in front of our faces. Dont hold yourself back with negative thoughts. Instead, focus on the positive things you have going in your life. Choose to be happy right now.我们总是期待着下一件好事情，却没有意识到它正在我们面前发生。别被消极的念头所阻碍。相反，要关注那些发生在你生活中的积极的事情。选择快乐，就是现在。10. Sometimes bad things hap

17、pen to good people有时候好人也会遇到坏事Suffering is part of life. But heres the cool thing: it makes us stronger. Theres a randomness to how the world works thats really hard to understand. We see evidence of this every day, and it can really make you question the future of mankind. How you choose to view the

18、 world is up to you. Just remember, the truth, however harsh, will set you free.磨难是人生的一部分。但好处在于，它会让我们更强大。世界的运转总有随机性，这确实难以理解。我们每天都会看到这种证据，这的确会让你质疑人类的未来。你如何看待这个世界由你自己决定。只需要记住，现实不论多么残酷，都会让你自由。15 things to talk about in a healthy relationship男女交往中可以谈论的15个话题1. Your Daily Activities1. 你的日常活动All of your co

19、nversations dont have to be earth shattering. Spend time talking about your day-to-day activities. Discuss what time you woke up, what you ate for lunch, or what you discussed with a co-worker and help your partner understand what happens when youre apart.不需要所有的谈话都轰动世界，花点时间谈一谈你的日常活动吧。谈一下你醒来的时间，你吃午饭的

20、时间，或者讨论一下你和你同事讨论了什么，你还可以让你的另一半知道你独处的时候发生了什么。2. Money2.财富Talk about your budget. Discuss your saving and spending habits. If you combine your finances, set some financial goals and discuss strategies to help you reach those goals.谈一下你的预算。讲一下你省钱和花钱的习惯。结合你的财政状况，可以设定一些财政目标以及实现这些目标的策略。3. Places You Want

21、to Explore3. 你想去的地方Start a conversation about the places youd like to visit. Whether you want to travel to your grandmothers house or you want to go on a cruise around the world, a discussion about travel can spark a lot of new conversation.开始一个谈论你想去的地方的话题。不管你是想去你祖母的老屋还是想去周游世界，一个关于旅游的话题总能迸发出更多话题的火花。

22、4. Emotional Growth4. 情绪管理Share some information about your emotional growth. If you notice youve become wiser, less reactive, or more compassionate, share that with your partner. Point out the emotional growth you see in your partner as well.分享一些关于你情绪管理的信息。如果你意识到自己变得更加睿智，少了点浮躁，多了点同情心，那么和你的另一半分享吧，同时

23、也要指出你眼中的另一半的情绪管理。5. Individual Goals5. 个人目标Its healthy to have individual goals. Whether you want to lose weight, learn how to prepare Chinese food, or learn how to line dance, set some goals for yourself and discuss those goals with your partner.拥有个人目标是一件很值得提倡的事情。不管你是想要减肥，学习如何做中国菜或者学习如何排舞，给自己定一些目标，

24、并且和另一半讨论你的这些目标。6. Spiritual Beliefs6. 精神信仰Start conversations about your spiritual beliefs. Be willing to listen to your partners beliefs and be open to talking about the similarities and differences in your beliefs.开始关于信仰的话题。要愿意去听另一半的信仰，并且可以讨论和你的信仰的相似点和不同点。7. What Youre Watching on TV7. 你看的电视节目Alth

25、ough watching TV isnt an active way to grow together as a couple, discussing what youre watching can help you learn something new about one another.尽管看电视并不是两个人共同成长的好方法，但是通过你看的电视节目可以了解对方更多。8. Politics8. 政治You dont have to agree on politics in order to have a discussion about it. You can learn a lot a

26、bout your partner if you have a conversation about politics. Any healthy relationship should allow each partner to feel respected enough to share an opinion, even if it opposes the other partners opinion.你不必为了讨论政治而去相信某种政治观点。如果你们讨论政治，是一个很好的了解另一半的窗口。任何一种健康的人际关系应该允许任何一个人去表达任何一种观点，尽管那个观点和其他人的相反。9. Goals

27、 to Address as a Couple9. 组建家庭的目标Discuss the goals you want to reach together as a couple. All healthy relationships should include shared goals for the future. Whether your goal is to volunteer at a homeless shelter together or save enough money for a new car, working together to reach your goal ca

28、n help you stay close as a couple.讨论一下组建一个家庭需要达到的目标。所有健康的关系里面都应该包含对未来的目标。不管你的目标是在一个无家可归者的庇护所里面当一个志愿者，还是攒足够的钱去买车，一起努力去实现目标可以使你们更加亲密。10. Your Past10. 你的过去Your partner doesnt need to know every skeleton in your closet. However, sharing information about your past can be very helpful. Talk about your ch

29、ildhood, past experiences, or obstacles youve overcome. You can also share how much youve learned and changed over the years.你的另一半不需要知道你过去所有的丑事。但是，分享一些你过去的事情非常有必要。可以说一下你的童年，小时候的经历，或者你克服的阻碍困难。你也可以分享一下你在过去几年里学到和改变的东西。11. Your Values11. 你的价值观Its important to share your values with one another. Talk abo

30、ut your priorities in life. Its important for your partner to know how you feel about work, family, education, friends, and leisure time. Let your partner know what types of things you value the most and what changes you may want to make to ensure that youre living according to your values.和别人分享你的价值

31、观非常重要。谈论一下你生活中重要的事情。让你的另一半知道你对工作，家庭，教育，朋友以及闲暇时间的看法很重要。要让你的另一半知道，什么事情对你而言最重要，你想要做什么改变以确保遵循自己的价值观而活。12. Your Dreams12. 你的梦想Daydreaming together can be a great activity in any healthy relationship. Discuss dreams you had as a child, dreams youve let go, and dreams you still hold onto.在一段健康的关系中，一起做白日梦是很好的“活动”。讨论一下儿童时期的梦想，梦里你去过的地方，还有你现在仍然怀有的梦想。13. Your Feelings13. 你的感觉Of course, talking about your feelings is an importa