如何帮助孩子正确认知自我呢

如何帮助孩子正确认知自我呢 协助孩子准确认知自我协助孩子准确认知自我 VSVS 烦扰孩子的自我认知烦扰孩子的自我认知 坦普正在灶间帮着姨妈摆放甜点匙和茶匙，姨妈发觉她能够随便地分清甜点匙和 茶匙的纤细差别，眼底露着惊喜的光辉，对于坦普说：“你晓得吗？你姨夫分没有清它们， 有时分我也分没有清，你是怎样做到的？”那样的评估让坦普意识到了本人的威力，姨妈 的评估协助坦普建构了优良的自我认知。 爸爸正在教大福拖地时，大福将拖地当成了游览，大福做对于了一度拖地的举措， 爸爸就即时赞誉：“大福真乖！”“咱们大福真棒！”“大福真愚笨。”当大福没有到达 爸爸的请求时，爸爸无比活力地冲着大福叫道：“你怎样这样笨啊，连个拖地都没有会！ ”爸爸对于大福的评估形式烦扰了大福的自我认知。“我究竟是愚笨还是愚蠢的孩子？” 那样的评估还给大福带来自贬和能干感。 了解孩子心田需要了解孩子心田需要 VSVS 调离孩子心田社会之外调离孩子心田社会之外 坦普所师从的富兰克林皮尔斯大学治理人员没有赞成坦普将挤压器留正在先生校 舍，这让坦普得到了安抚本人心田的协助形式。学期里，坦普正在姨妈的支撑下，做了一 度新的挤压器，并决议带回学校，保持放进本人的校舍。坦普的妈妈没有支撑那样做，她 以为对于患有自闭症的坦普要过分防止特别化，没有指望坦普因为挤压器而让外人觉得到 她的没有同。而姨妈正在某个事情上读懂了坦普的心田需求坦普应用挤压器协助本人 顺应着某个社会，接续实现大学的进修，姨妈和坦普一同离开学校，与学校治理人员力排 众议，最初，将挤压器留正在了坦普的校舍。 爸爸教大福意识钱，大福关心着盘子里的果儿，想着将果儿成为马戏团扮演者手 里高高抛起的小球，当爸爸发觉大福正在关心果儿后，自命没有凡是地判别出大福是想吃 果儿了，此外，爸爸说：“大福，学完了再吃果儿啊。”爸爸教大福学做炒果儿时，大福 感兴味于果儿正在手上滑腻的觉得，爸爸却只顾着本人的需求教会大福炒果儿，三言 两语地要挟大福没有好好敲破果儿就没有可以吃饭。爸爸与大福的交换一直没有正在一度 “频率段”上，没有可以读懂大福心田的需求。 双亲没有可以读懂孩子的心，这会让孩子觉得没有被双亲了解，堕入物质苦楚中。 关于幼儿来说，抒发这种苦楚的形式就是无故哭闹、时常受伤、睡眠阻碍、生计阻碍等， 而关于青年期的孩子来说，则体现为亲子联系没有融洽、*双亲的教诲、抑郁、离家出奔、 晚期性生活、停学、退出政法上的没有良集团等。 准确的协助办法准确的协助办法 VSVS 谬误的协助办法谬误的协助办法 当姨妈明确坦普没有了解如何抒发心情时，给坦普教育开心时脸上的表情，并用 照相机拍下坦普的各族表情：伤心、活力、满意、庆幸让坦普进修准确的心情抒发形 式，鼓舞坦普没有关键怕与别人的交换。 大福尚未意识各族面值的货币，还没有了解如何运用钱来购物，爸爸就开端了评 议：“大福，买一度电电扇要用多少钱？”这句话中的“买”是什么意义？“用”是什么 意义？“多少钱”的“多少”指的是什么？大福没有从实践经历中失掉过该署语汇的 概念，他无奈将该署用语与用语所指的行止或者许对象配对于，因为他基本听没有明确爸 爸这句话的意义究竟是什么。面对于爸爸的发问：“买货色要做什么？”大福背书似的答 复：“买货色要给钱。”大福并没有明确本人语 言后的有关行止，他的答复但是爸爸正在家里硬性灌输的语汇而已，最终的后果 是大福的评议没有象样，看着爸爸绝望的表情，只会给大福带来“我真笨”的觉得。爸爸 急于顺利的手段让他的行止彻底是出于本人的需求我需求大福尽快学会购物，但他彻 底没有了解如何协助大福，也没有从大福的威力程度起程来施行协助。 爸爸带大福到了柴姨百货店，开端评议大福能否学会了购物，大福由于没有可以 满意爸爸的请求而堕入了穷困的形态，这时，柴姨由于大福的穷困笑出了声响，这让大福 主张尴尬。假如柴姨了解尊严重福，这时，她就没有会收回笑声，而是会想方法协助大福 消除穷困。柴姨也确实想帮大福，面对于爸爸保持让大福说出要买什么货色，柴姨上前责 怪爸爸：“看你把孩子逼的！”而后间接从冰柜里拿出冰糕递给了大福。那样的协助形式 毁坏了大福进修购物的进程，假如柴姨明确爸爸带大福来商店的手段是教会大福买货色， 就汇合作爸爸的做法，教大福学会购物。 丁东正在教大福接电话进程用了太多的言语：“大福，当前某个电话响了，要接 电话，晓得吗？这是丁东打来的。”大福无奈吸收和区分该署言语传送的消息，大福素来 没有接过电话，没有可以将“接电话”的言语与接电话的详细举措配对于。丁东拨响了电 话，她将大福的手握住去拿起电话，但却没有将电话听诊器接近大福的耳朵，却问大福： “大福，听到了吗？”大福还没有进修到接电话的详细进程，丁东就与大福开端了躲猫猫 的情感游览，最初，大福还是没有学会如何接听电话。 为孩子需要生长的狭小时间为孩子需要生长的狭小时间 VSVS 将孩子束缚正在双亲的羽翼之下将孩子束缚正在双亲的羽翼之下 妈妈为坦普的生长需要了狭小的时间：让坦普进入小学、国学、大学进修，到姨 妈的靶场休息，接触更多的人和事，让坦普一直面对于条件的应战，给她带来了更多生长 契机：坦普带盲少女去看电影，她第一次自动将胳膊伸向盲少女，让盲少女挽着她一同到 摄影室，坦普没有再排挤与别人身材接触，开端自动与同窗同桌，自动与妈妈拥抱；坦普 由于与同窗殴打被处分，她渐渐学会恪守规定；坦普对于牛的钻研有极大的兴味，让养牛 场治理人员打动，自动协助坦普正在硕士钻研舆论上批阅，自动找出刊物担任人造她需要 了收支养牛场的通行证，为坦普起初的硕士考题钻研和钻研作品宣布构建了根底；到超市 购物遇到了宰牛场老板的夫人，失掉了设想人理学说屠场的时机；与卡洛克副高念叨马的 出生，让坦普了解了如何面对于出生。“你切记它先前的形状，没有要切记它现正在的形 状”正在坦普的生活中，该署人犹如入地派来的安琪儿，让坦普小半小半地变质，破 茧成蝶！ 大福的生涯局只限家族和父亲任务的场合，没有冤家、导师和同窗，得到了停滞 政法性威力的时机和条件。丁东的涌现为大福带来了情感停滞的时机，然而好景没有长， 丁东很快就到其余乡村扮演去了，分开了大福。正在大福父亲的追悼会上，没有人引领大 福如何面对于父亲的出生，一切的人都用怜悯的目光看着没有谙尘世的大福。 物质导师的引领物质导师的引领 VSVS 被别人怜悯被别人怜悯 卡洛克副高发觉了坦普存正在常人难以到达的听觉考虑威力，细心设想了相关听 觉的工作，他晓得只要坦普才可以实现。实现了高难度的工作让坦普发觉了本人异乎寻常 的威力，失掉了集体的认同和尊重，看着坦普的佳作，那些已经歧视她的同窗眼睛里流显 露了愧疚，而卡洛克副高为坦普放导弹模子庆贺，更是对于坦普极大的肯定，改观了坦普 正在学校的人际条件。听觉工作让坦普享遭到了钻研带来的物质愉悦，为她起初设想人理 学说配种牛的零碎打下了物质根底。卡洛克副高对于坦普的协助充足表现出“润物细无声” 的初级境地。 卡洛克副高协助坦普意识本人的异乎寻常：“你的思想形式很尤其，你对于待对 象的形式和外人没有同。”当坦普恐惧面对于进入大学后的人际来往时，卡洛克副高为坦 普注入面对于人生的勇气：“坦普，将大学设想成一扇门，一扇将为你封闭一度全新社会 的门，你需求做的就是踏进这扇门！”正在起初的人生中，每当坦普遇到窘境时，都会想 起副高的该署话语，引领着坦普向更初三级的生活形态前进，卡洛克副高变化了坦普的物 质导师。物质导师就是孩子优良人品的设想者和施行者，正在孩子的生活生长中，可以协 助孩子建构初级审美的人生观、价格观和人生观，引领孩子到达一种初级的物质谋求境地。 妈妈协助坦普建构的金鸡独立自主物质和卡洛克副高为坦普指引的生活位置，单独承载着 坦普的天分，为坦普封闭了完成生活价格的宅门。 大福的生活中没有遇到物质导师，没有人造他停止金鸡独立自主物质认识的建构， 更没有人引领他踏上完成生活价格的路，爸爸、丁东、柴姨、陆地馆老板、民兴学校教师 和校长，他们寄予大福更多的是怜悯。正在父亲死后，大福生涯正在学校里，学校的教师 只会为大福可以本人煮熟果儿主张欣喜，而没有可以看到大福物质的极度孤单。 完成生活的价格完成生活的价格 VSVS 为饥寒而生活为饥寒而生活 坦普对于生活有着本人的解读，她对于大学室友盲少女说：“我没有想让我的主 意随我一同死去，我得去做些什么，我晓得我没有能够了解一切的货色，但我依然指望我 的生活过得成心义！”这便是坦普对于自我完成的物质谋求，这是全人类物质谋求的最顶 层面，坦普正在自闭症常会上的报告让咱们感遭到了她金鸡独立、自主、有威严的人品魔 力。 大福正在父亲死后依托别人的怜悯和恩赐失掉一份干净工任务大福正在父亲死后依托别人的怜悯和恩赐失掉一份干净工任务 赖以生活，孤单孤单，期盼着丁东的电话，从玳瑁这里来记忆爸爸大福冒险 地活正在某个社会，别人过多地怜悯与恩赐曾经让大福的自尊萎缩。如果大福的天赋被发 觉，如果大福也失掉了狭小的停滞时间，如果陆地馆老板可以了解协助大福，他能够正在 陆地馆与鳄鱼一同扮演，发挥他的天赋，既可以抚养本人也给众人带来悲哀。那样，他的 人生价格也得以最大完成，他的幸运就会来自本人价格的完成，而没有是玳瑁。 马斯洛的需要档次实践将全人类的需要分成五种，像楼梯一样从低到高，按档次 逐次递升，辨别为：生理上的需要，保险上的需要，情感和归于的需要，尊重的需要，自 我完成的需要。坦普曾经抵达了最高等次自我完成，而大福停止正在最低档次生 理需要。 尊重、支撑、了解和协助是聪慧之爱的中心，失掉了聪慧之爱的孩子就可以完成 生活的价格；束缚和灭绝孩子物质自我的爱就是宠爱，孩子的物质谋求正在双亲的掌握中 “溺”爱而亡！ How to help children correct cognition of self. Help children to accurate cognition of self VS annoyance child self cognition Temple is a kitchen to help aunt put dessert spoon and a teaspoon, aunt finds out that she can easily distinguish the dessert spoon and teaspoon fine differences, fundus showing surprise glory, for the temple said: “ you know? Your uncle is divided not clear them, sometimes I also not clear, how do you do? “ That assessment let temple was aware of my power, my aunt assessment assists the temple construction excellent self cognition. His father is teaching Taifook mopping the floor, large engineering floor as tour, Taifook do for once mopping the floor move, daddys instant praise: “ good good! “ “ We Taifook awesome! “ “ Tai Fook really stupid. “ When the great good fortune did not reach the request of father, father is alive at Taifook exclaimed: “ you how so stupid, even the mopping the floor are not! “ Father for blessing the assessment forms annoy greatly blessed self cognition. “What am I stupid or foolish boy? “ That assessment to Taifook self-deprecating sense and able to bring. Understanding the child heart needs VS from the child heart Society Temple Institute from Franklin Pierce University administrator will no Zanchengtanpu extruder to stay at school this sir, let my heart temple is placated the forms of assistance. Semester, temple is aunt s support, did a new extruder, and decided to back to school, stay put in my school. Temple s mother did not support to do so, she thought for autistic temple to excessively to prevent especially, did not expect Temple because of extruding and let strangers feel her is not the same. And my aunt is something read Temple heart needs - Application of extruding help my temple with a society, continue to realize the university study, aunt and temple to leave school, and school administrator argued, first, the extruding device remains in temple school. My father teaches Taifook consciousness money, Taifook about dish nuts, nuts become think circus play hands high toss the ball, when the father found Taifook is concerned about nuts, as did not usually distinguish Taifook is to eat nuts, in addition, the father said: “ Tai Fook, finish eat nuts. “ My father teaches Tai Fook do fried fruit childhood, Taifook interested in nuts are hand greasy feel, dad just my demand - church blessing fried nuts, in two words or three threat Taifook didnt break no can eat nuts. Dad and Taifook exchange has not being a “ frequency “, can not read Taifook heart needs. Parents can not understand the heart of a child, this will let the child does not feel parents understand, in physical pain. About children, expressing this suffering form is often injured, without crying, sleep difficulties, livelihood hinder, and on the young children, parent-child relationship is reflected in not harmonious, * * parents teachings, depression, home leave, advanced sex, suspended, and on exit and no group. Accurate assist approach VS fallacy assistance measures When Aunt clear temple has no understanding of how to express feelings, to the temple education happy face, and shoot all nationalities: sad expression temple, vitality, satisfaction, lucky . . Let temple learning accurate mood expressions, inspired by the temple without fear and others exchange. Large Fushang without an awareness of all money, also do not understand how to use the money to go shopping, father to start review: “ Tai Fook, buy electricity fan needs to use number money? “ In this sentence, “ buy “ what is the meaning? “ With “ what is the meaning? “How much “ of “ number “ refers to what? . . Fu no from practice experience had the Department vocabulary concepts, but he will be the Department of language and language refers to the behavior or object matching for, because he can hear no clear Dad this words what is the meaning of. In the face of father s question: “ shopping to do? “ Tai Fook endorsement like replies: “ to give money to buy goods. “ There is no clear my blessing language Other related to reply, but his father is at home rigid instillation vocabulary only, the final result is a good review no decent, looked at Dad expression of despair, only to the large fortune brings “ Im stupid“ feel. Dad hurry to hitch means that his behavior is completely out of my demand - I need happiness soon learns of shopping, but he did not know how to help complete Fu, nor from the blessing power level to undertake assist departure. My father took great blessing to the wood s store, begin to review Taifook could learn to shopping, Taifook because there are no satisfactory dads request in poor form, then, firewood due to poor aunt Fu laughed out of sound, which made Taifook advocated embarrassment. If the wood is aunt about dignity heavy Fu, at this time, she will not recover the laughter, but would like to help Fu the eradication of poverty. Chai aunts also want to help Fu, in the face of father keep Taifook say what to buy goods, wood s father to blame: “ your children! “ Then indirectly from the refrigerator with ice cream to fu. That help form destroyed Taifook study shopping process, if aunt father to clear wood with a large store means is the church in Fu Shopping, trading cooperation dad practice, teach Taifook society shopping. Dingdong is teaching Taifook phone process using too many words: “ Tai Fook, currently a telephone rang, to answer the phone, do you know? This is called ding. “ The Fu but absorption and distinguish the Department of speech transmitted messages, Ofuku Soku has not answered the phone, not to “ call “ the speech and the detailed measures to answer the telephone pair. Ding Dong dialed the phone, she will be blessing hand to pick up the phone, but no telephone stethoscope close great blessing ears, but asked: “ Fu Fu, do you hear me? “ Tai Fook is not learning to answer the telephone and detailed process, Ding Fu started hiding emotions tour, initially, Fu had not learned how to answer the telephone. Children need time for growth of small VS bound is parents children under the wings of Mother temple growth and the need for a small time: let the temple into the primary school, ancient Chinese literature search, University of education, to range the rest of my aunt, access to more people and things, let a face for the conditions of the temple challenge, brought her more growth opportunities: Temple with a blind girl to go to the movies, she first automatically arm to the blind girl, let the blind girl took her to the studio, temple no exclusion and others physical contact, start automatically with the classmate deskmate, automatic and mother hug; temple with classmates beat punished, she gradually learned to adhere to regulations; temple to cattle have great interest in studying, let the cattle farm administrator to move, automatically assist temple is on public opinion in marking, automatically identify publications as artificial she needs to break cattle pass, as the temple first master exam study and research works of construction the foundation announced; supermarket shopping to meet slaughter cattle bosss wife, lost the idea and theory abattoir timing; and the subtropical high over the horse s birth, let Temple learned how to face was born. “ You remember its previous shape, not to remember that it is in the shape of . . “ Is a temple in life, the people like the sent angel, let Temple small small spoils, become a butterfly! Tai Fook life confined family and father work occasions, no friends, teachers and classmates, obtained the stagnation of the timing and terms of political power. Ding Dong emerged as big blessing brings emotional stagnation time, however good view no longer, Ding Dong quickly to the rest of the country to play go, separated from the big fu. In the blessing of her fathers memorial service, no one to lead the Taifook how to face to the fathers birth, all with mercy looked at without an earthly blessing. Material Supervisor lead VS is compassion of others Carlock found the temple of subtropical high are ordinary people to arrive at the hearing to consider power, carefully designed the auditory tasks, he knows that as long as the temple can be realized. A highly unusual work let Temple found my lost power, collective identity and respect, looked at the temple works, those who have eyes against her classmates expressed his guilt, and the subtropical high for the temple on missile model is to celebrate, Yutanpu huge affirmation, changed temple in the school human condition. Auditory working let Temple enjoy the study bring material pleasure, as she originally envisaged WSR theory stud bull system to lay corporeal foundation. Carlock high for temple help enough show “ moisten things silently “ primary condition. Carlock ridge assist Temple Consciousness my unusual: “ you thought form is especially, you are to be the form of the object and the outsiders is not the same. “ When the temple of fear in the face of entering the university after the interpersonal relationships, the subtropical high is injected in the face of temple life of courage: “ temple, the university idea into a door, a window will be closed once the new societys door, you need to do is enter this door! “ Being first in life, when Temple encountered trouble, will think of subtropical high in the Department of discourse, leading to a grade 3 Temple living forward, the change of subtropical high the temple material supervisor. Material supervisor is the child good character conceived and performed, is a childs life growth, can help children establish primary aesthetic outlook on life, values and outlook on life, to lead the children arrive at a primary material for condition. Mother helped temple construction independent material and Carlock for standing on one leg high temple guide life position, bearing a separate Temple talent, as the temple was closed to complete the life price house. Tai Fook life had no matter teacher, no artificial he stopped standing on one leg independent material knowledge construction, no one to lead him on a complete life way, Dad, aunt, Ding, wood land Pavilion boss, Min Xing school principals and teachers, they have great good fortune is more a pity. Is upon the death of his father, blessed career in school, school teachers will only Taifook can I cooked figs that joy, but none can see Taifook material extremely lonely. Life price VS for hunger and cold life Temple to have their own interpretation of life, she for University roommate blind girl said: “ I dont want to let my mind with me to die together, I have to do something, I know that I have no