TED英语演讲：勇敢是度过难关的唯一方法

Word文档TED英语演讲：勇敢，是度过难关的唯一方法在这篇感人的演讲中，艾许.贝克汉提出了一个怜悯与心胸开放的全新方式首先要理解每个人在生命中皆曾经受过困难。艾许说，度过难关唯一的方法，就是要开启柜门，英勇的踏出柜子。下面是我为大家收集关于TED英语演讲：英勇，是度过难关的唯一方法，欢迎借鉴参考。

演说题目：英勇，是度过难关的唯一方法

演说者：艾许.贝克汉

Imgoingtotalktoyoutonightaboutcomingoutofthecloset,andnotinthetraditionalsense,notjustthegaycloset.Ithinkweallhaveclosets.Yourclosetmaybetellingsomeoneyouloveherforthefirsttime,ortellingsomeonethatyourepregnant,ortellingsomeoneyouhavecancer,oranyoftheotherhardconversationswehavethroughoutourlives.Allaclosetisisahardconversation,andalthoughourtopicsmayvarytremendously,theexperienceofbeinginandcomingoutoftheclosetisuniversal.Itisscary,andwehateit,anditneedstobedone.

Severalyearsago,IwasworkingattheSouthSideWalnutCafe,alocaldinerintown,andduringmytimethereIwouldgothroughphasesofmilitantlesbianintensity:notshavingmyarmpits,quotingAniDiFrancolyricsasgospel.AnddependingonthebagginessofmycargoshortsandhowrecentlyIhadshavedmyhead,thequestionwouldoftenbesprungonme,usuallybyalittlekid:

Um,areyouaboyorareyouagirl?

Andtherewouldbeanawkwardsilenceatthetable.Idclenchmyjawalittletighter,holdmycoffeepotwithalittlemorevengeance.Thedadwouldawkwardlyshufflehisnewspaperandthemomwouldshootachillingstareatherkid.ButIwouldsaynothing,andIwouldseetheinside.AnditgottothepointwhereeverytimeIwalkeduptoatablethathadakidanywherebetweenthreeand10yearsold,Iwasreadytofight.(Laughter)Andthatisaterriblefeeling.SoIpromisedmyself,thenexttime,Iwouldsaysomething.Iwouldhavethathardconversation.

Sowithinamatterofweeks,ithappensagain.

Areyouaboyorareyouagirl?

Familiarsilence,butthistimeImready,andIamabouttogoallWomensStudies101onthistable.(Laughter)IvegotmyBettyFriedanquotes.IvegotmyGloriaSteinemquotes.IveevengotthislittlebitfromVaginaMonologuesImgoingtodo.SoItakeadeepbreathandIlookdownandstaringbackatmeisafour-year-oldgirlinapinkdress,notachallengetoafeministduel,justakidwithaquestion:Areyouaboyorareyouagirl?

SoItakeanotherdeepbreath,squatdowntonexttoher,andsay,Hey,Iknowitskindofconfusing.Myhairisshortlikeaboys,andIwearboysclothes,butImagirl,andyouknowhowsometimesyouliketowearapinkdress,andsometimesyouliketowearyourcomfyjammies?Well,Immoreofacomfyjammieskindofgirl.

Andthiskidlooksmedeadintheeye,withoutmissingabeat,andsays,Myfavoritepajamasarepurplewithfish.CanIgetapancake,please?(Laughter)Andthatwasit.Just,Oh,okay.Youreagirl.Howaboutthatpancake?

ItwastheeasiesthardconversationIhaveeverhad.Andwhy?BecausePancakeGirlandI,wewerebothrealwitheachother.

Solikemanyofus,Ivelivedinafewclosetsinmylife,andyeah,mostoften,mywallshappenedtoberainbow.Butinside,inthedark,youcanttellwhatcolorthewallsare.Youjustknowwhatitfeelsliketoliveinacloset.Soreally,myclosetisnodifferentthanyoursoryoursoryours.Sure,Illgiveyou100reasonswhycomingoutofmyclosetwasharderthancomingoutofyours,butheresthething:Hardisnotrelative.Hardishard.Whocantellmethatexplainingtosomeoneyouvejustdeclaredbankruptcyisharderthantellingsomeoneyoujustcheatedonthem?Whocantellmethathiscomingoutstoryisharderthantellingyourfive-year-oldyouregettingadivorce?Thereisnoharder,thereisjusthard.Weneedtostoprankingourhardagainsteveryoneelseshardtomakeusfeelbetterorworseaboutourclosetsandjustcommiserateonthefactthatweallhavehard.Atsomepointinourlives,weallliveinclosets,andtheymayfeelsafe,oratleastsaferthanwhatliesontheothersideofthatdoor.ButIamheretotellyou,nomatterwhatyourwallsaremadeof,aclosetisnoplaceforapersontolive.

Thanks.(Applause)

Soimagineyourself20yearsago.Me,Ihadaponytail,astraplessdress,andhigh-heeledshoes.Iwasnotthemilitantlesbianreadytofightanyfour-year-oldthatwalkedintothecafe.Iwasfrozenbyfear,curledupinthecornerofmypitch-blackclosetclutchingmygaygrenade,andmovingonemuscleisthescariestthingIhaveeverdone.Myfamily,myfriends,completestrangers--Ihadspentmyentirelifetryingtonotdisappointthesepeople,andnowIwasturningtheworldupsidedownonpurpose.Iwasburningthepagesofthescriptwehadallfollowedforsolong,butifyoudonotthrowthatgrenade,itwillkillyou.

Oneofmymostmemorablegrenadetosseswasatmysisterswedding.(Laughter)ItwasthefirsttimethatmanyinattendanceknewIwasgay,soindoingmymaidofhonorduties,inmyblackdressandheels,Iwalkedaroundtotablesandfinallylandedonatableofmyparentsfriends,folksthathadknownmeforyears.Andafteralittlesmalltalk,oneofthewomenshoutedout,IloveNathanLane!Andthebattleofgayrelatabilityhadbegun.

Ash,haveyoueverbeentotheCastro?

Well,yeah,actually,wehavefriendsinSanFrancisco.

Well,weveneverbeentherebutwevehearditsfabulous.

Ash,doyouknowmyhairdresserAntonio?Hesreallygoodandhehasnevertalkedaboutagirlfriend.

Ash,whatsyourfavoriteTVshow?OurfavoriteTVshow?Favorite:WillGrace.Andyouknowwhowelove?Jack.Jackisourfavorite.

Andthenonewoman,stumpedbutwantingsodesperatelytoshowhersupport,toletmeknowshewasonmyside,shefinallyblurtedout,Well,sometimesmyhusbandwearspinkshirts.(Laughter)

AndIhadachoiceinthatmoment,asallgrenadethrowersdo.Icouldgobacktomygirlfriendandmygay-lovingtableandmocktheirresponses,chastisetheirunworldlinessandtheirinabilitytojumpthroughthepoliticallycorrectgayhoopsIhadbroughtwithme,orIcouldempathizewiththemandrealizethatthatwasmaybeoneofthehardestthingstheyhadeverdone,thatstartingandhavingthatconversationwasthemcomingoutoftheirclosets.Sure,itwouldhavebeeneasytopointoutwheretheyfeltshort.Itsalothardertomeetthemwheretheyareandacknowledgethefactthattheyweretrying.Andwhatelsecanyouasksomeonetodobuttry?Ifyouregoingtoberealwithsomeone,yougottabereadyforrealinreturn.

Sohardconversationsarestillnotmystrongsuit.AskanybodyIhaveeverdated.ButImgettingbetter,andIfollowwhatIliketocallthethreePancakeGirlprinciples.Now,pleaseviewthisthroughgay-coloredlenses,butknowwhatittakestocomeoutofanyclosetisessentiallythesame.

Numberone:Beauthentic.Takethearmoroff.Beyourself.Thatkidinthecafehadnoarmor,butIwasreadyforbattle.Ifyouwantsomeonetoberealwithyou,theyneedtoknowthatyoubleedtoo.

Numbertwo:Bedirect.Justsayit.RiptheBand-Aidoff.Ifyouknowyouaregay,justsayit.Ifyoutellyourparentsyoumightbegay,theywillholdouthopethatthiswillchange.Donotgivethemthatsenseoffalsehope.(Laughter)

Andnumberthree,andmostimportant--(Laughter)Beunapologetic.Youarespeakingyourtruth.Neverapologizeforthat.Andsomefolksmayhavegottenhurtalongtheway,sosure,apologizeforwhatyouvedone,butneverapologizeforwhoyouare.Andyeah,somefolksmaybedisappointed,butthatisonthem,notonyou.Thosearetheirexpectationsofwhoyouare,notyours.Thatistheirstory,notyours.Theonlystorythatmattersistheonethatyouwanttowrite.Sothenexttimeyoufindyourselfinapitch-blackclosetclutchingyourgrenade,knowwehaveallbeentherebefore.Andyoumayfeelsoveryalone,butyouarenot.Andweknowitshardbutweneedyououthere,nomatterwhatyourwallsaremadeof,becauseIguaranteeyouthereareotherspeeringthroughthekeyholesoftheirclosetslookingforthenextbravesoultobustadooropen,sobethatpersonandshowtheworldthatwearebiggerthanourclosetsandthataclosetisnoplaceforapersontotrulylive.

Thankyou,Boulder.Enjoyyournight.(Applause)

今晚我会和大家叙述如何走出柜但不是传统意义上的层面不只是成为同性恋那样的出柜我想大家都有个柜你所谓的出柜有的或许是你跟她第一次说我爱你或许告知别人你怀孕了或许告知别人你患有癌症甚至是其他我们都经受过的难以启齿的谈话所谓的柜就是一次说不出口的谈话虽然我们的话题涉及广泛在柜中和出柜的经受都是相通的这种感觉很可怕尽管我们都不喜爱但是还得这样做

几年以前我在SouthSideWalnut咖啡店工作一个当地的餐厅那段时间我经受了激进女同性恋的紧急没有刮我的腋毛引用福音AniDiFranco的歌词由于我宽松的工装短裤还有我最近的发型常常会有人问我通常是小孩儿问我

“嗯，你是男孩还是女孩?”

随之而来的是一阵尴尬的安静我紧咬牙关怀着报复的心紧握着咖啡罐爸爸尴尬地乱翻着报纸妈妈冷漠地盯着孩子但是我说不出口内心却在沸腾重点是每次我走到旁边有3到10岁小孩儿的桌子时我都预备好要干一架了(笑声)这种感觉特别不好所以我跟自己讲下一次我肯定会说什么我会把话说出口

所以过了几个星期又消失这种状况了

“你是男孩还是女孩?”

熟识的寂静但是这次我预备好了这次我要把全部女性的话说出来(笑声)我预备好引用BettyFriedan的话预备好引用GloriaSteinem的话我甚至从《阴道独白》中选了几句话我深吸了口气我低下头看迎来的是一个穿着粉色裙子的4岁小女孩儿的目光这个小菜一碟只是个小孩儿问问题“你是男孩还是女孩?”

我又深吸了口气在她身旁蹲下来说“我知道有点不好理解我的头发像男生的那样短我还穿着男生的衣服但是我是个女孩有时候你喜爱穿粉色的裙子有时候喜爱穿舒适的睡衣对吧那我就是那种喜爱穿舒适睡衣的那种女孩

这个小孩儿死死的盯着我都不带眨的说”我最喜爱的睡衣是紫色的上面还有鱼能给我块煎饼吗?“(笑声)就是这样”哦好吧你是个女孩来块煎饼怎么样?“

这是有史以来最简洁的一次困难对话为什么呢由于这个煎饼女孩和我我们对彼此都很真诚

所以跟许多人一样我住在自己的几个柜里是的而且我的四周墙经常会变成彩色但是墙的里面黑暗中你却不知道内墙是什么颜色你就是知道在柜里是什么感觉所以真的我的柜和你的你的全部人的柜都是一样的当然我会告知你100个理由来解释为什么我出柜会比你出柜要难但是重点是难并不是相对的各有各的难处谁能告知我是跟一个人讲你刚刚破产难还是跟一个人讲你背叛他难呢谁能告知我是一个人说自己出柜难还是告知你5岁的孩子你要离婚了难呢没有谁更难一些就只是很难而已我们不能把各自的难处排个1234以此来让我们对自己的柜更好过或更难受些然后又相互怜悯大家都很难在生活中的某些时刻我们都闷在柜里这样我们感到很平安至少比在柜外面更平安些但是我要告知大家不管你的柜是什么材质那都不是一个人应当住的地方

感谢(掌声)

想想20xx年前的你那时的我扎着马尾穿着没有肩带的裙子蹬着高跟鞋我不是那个紧急的女同性恋随时预备迎战走进咖啡厅的4岁孩童恐惊使我不得动弹缩在我那个黑漆漆的柜里绷紧身为同性恋的神经我从未放松过紧绷的那根弦我的家人伴侣生疏人我始终都努力不让这些人绝望然而现在我却有意把事情弄的一团糟我把我们始终沿用的脚本都烧掉但是假如你不丢掉手中的手榴弹它会至你于死地

让我印象最深刻的一次爆发是在我姐姐的婚礼上(笑声)许多在场的人知道我是同性恋这还是头一回所以我作为伴娘穿着一袭黑裙和高跟鞋我游走在桌边最终打算坐在我父母的伴侣的那一桌上他们熟悉我很久了说了一会儿话后有个女人大叫着说“我超爱NathanLane!”就这样一场关于同性恋的话题拉开帷幕

”Ash你去过Castro吗?“

”恩内什么实际上我们在旧金山有伴侣“

”内什么我们没去过那儿但是听说那儿挺棒的“

”Ash你知道我的理