积极的自我对话培训课件

积极的自我对话PositiveSelfTalk自我对话形成自我对话重建积极的自我对话IntrapersonalInterpersonalTranspersonalSmallgroupPublic：学术报告等沟通层次-按对象分类自我沟通内心对白自言自语内心沟通SelftalkShadHelmstetter沙德.黑尔姆施泰特1+4=53+4=75+2=6自我对话的形成8+1=92+1=3“Wealltalktoourselvesallofthetime.Mostofwhatwetellourselvesisnegative.”（1998）Eachofusisprogrammedfrombirthon/75%ormoremaybenegativeorworkingagainstus18年/148000个“NO”/几千个“Yes”我们被消极的程序化/深陷其中/不断强化此程序-新生儿没有焦虑自我对话的形成Everyword,facialexpression,gesture,oractiononthepartofaparentgivesthechildsomemessageaboutself-worth.Itissadthatsomanyparentsdon'trealizewhatmessagestheyaresendingVirginiaSatir:《先知》第四章

论孩子KahlilGibranLebanese

《TheProphet》

artist卡里尔•纪伯伦（1883～1931）史铁生：有些话语称起来不重，但稍有不慎，便会重重地压到别人心上；当然，要训练自己，不要轻易被别人的话扎伤每个想法都变成化学信号多少个亿万的电子化学开关/神经递质/控制我们的身体/积极信号能量多自我对话的形成神经元-Neurone神经元神经递质的传递不论是你自己还是别人装进你大脑的想法，意识到或没有意识到的，都影响你大脑简单地相信你最经常告诉它的话/不管是对错/并储存在下意识中自我对话的形成西格蒙德弗洛伊德SigmundFreud1856年－1939年精神分析创始人奥地利知名医生人的心理就像海面上的冰山早期相信的东西是后来信念的基础任何一个新的东西都要与过去的信念相联系才能产生意义任何成功或失败都基于这个程序罗森塔尔效应自我对话的形成Turkington（1998）消极的自我沟通是内在的邪恶，我们经常对自己讲这些却从来未对别人讲过BachandTorbet(1986）内心有两种声音-内心敌人和盟友自我对话的形成人生的旅途中，处处充满着荒唐的信息和错误的想法（阿浩，1999）很多人听信别人的话，即使是完全错误的，却坚信了一辈子(Helmsetter,1998)人们经常意识不到消极的自我谈话，还传给下一代自我对话的形成快乐人生，始于排除脑中有毒的想法（阿浩，1999）给大脑指引正确方向，它才能有效工作当被消极思想控制且开始焦虑时，要静下来对自己喊停，阻止蔓延自我沟通重建神经塑性的威力Everythoughtyouthinkchangesyourlife分析如何将消极的变成积极的，并慢慢地将它成为意识中的一部分，变成自己对自己说话的一部分下意识从来不睡觉，所以需要很多重复才能从新程序化（YouandMe）推销员自我沟通重建Youhavealotofthingstodiscusswithyourmind

Thewheelofchangeturnsslowly,butitalwaysturnsinthedirectionofwhatyouputintoyourmind自我沟通重建BrainpositiveSelfTalkBelieveinyourselfKeepyour

priorities straightTakeresponsibilityfor

yourselfCreateyourownfutureFocusonwhatyouwantNeverletanyonecontrol

yourdestinyforyouBecreativeSetspecificgoals&reviewthemoftenRecognizethatsuccessismorethanmoneySometimesIwishI’dneverbeenbornWhyshouldItry,it’snotgoingtoworkanywayI’veneverbeengoodatthatNobodylikesmeBrainNegativeSelfTalkTheonlykindofluckIhaveisbadluckIdon’thavetheenergyIusedtoNobodywantstopaymewhatI’mworthIhatemyjobThat’simpossible零忍受消极思考AlthoughDr.Davewastrainedtopreserveandrestorevisionusingsurgery,hewantedtofightinnerblindnessandrestoreinnervisionteachingpeoplehowtolookattheworldthrougheyesofpossibilityandloveEitheryoucontrolyourmind,oritcontrolsyou.

YoucanchangewhoyouarebychangingwhatyousaywhenyoutalktoyourmindFEEDYOURMIND3MEALSADAYWhenmybeliefsareright,myworldisright.ThebeliefsthatIinheritfromotherpeoplebecomethebackpackoflimitationsthatIcarrythroughlife.

TheeasiestthingtofindonplanetearthissomeonetotellmeallofthethingsIcannotdo.

Freedomisonlyathought

away(1/2)Theworldisfullofexpertswhoarereadytoprogramtheirlimitationsintomymind.

Ichoosemybeliefscarefully.Iwillnotcapitulatemydreamsandtakeupthesecondhanddreamsofotherpeople.

Theonlywaytobetrulyfreeistogetmybeliefsrightandtolivebythem.

Freedomisonlyathoughtaway（2/2）Opportunityhidesinplainsight,anduntilIhaveadream,Ican’tseetheopportunitiesthatarerightinfrontofmyeyes.

IfIamhavingahardtimerecognizingopportunity,Ineedtotakeatriptothedreamfactory,pickoutashinynewdream,andstartworkingonit.

OPPORTUNITY(1/4)OnceIhaveadream,opportunitiesstartpoppingupeverywhere.Opportunityisashyvisitor.

Whenopportunitycomescalling,it’susuallydisguisedasaproblemorhardwork,anditdoesn’tremainforlongunlessit’simmediatelyinvitedin.

OPPORTUNITY(2/4)IknowopportunitywellandrecognizeallofitsdisguisesTheLifeLongDisorientedfleeopportunitywhenitcomesdisguisedasproblems.

IembraceproblemsandfallinlovewithopportunityOPPORTUNITY(3/4)Opportunitiesfrequentlydon'tlastlong,andthewindowofopportunityissmall.

IfIwanttoreachmydreams,Imusttakeadvantageofitasitpassesby.

Whenthewindsofopportunityblowthroughmylife,Imustraisemysailsofpositiveexpectationsandcruiseontheoceanofmydreams.OPPORTUNITY(4/4)生病的经验是一步步懂得满足。发烧了，才知道不发烧的日子多么清爽。咳嗽了，才体会不咳嗽的嗓子多么安详。刚坐上轮椅时，我老想，不能直立行走岂非把人