积极心理学专题知识讲座

Perfeconizmti第1页OutlineWhatisPerfectionism?CharacteristicsConsequencesSuccessandHappinessSourcesofPerfectionismOveringPerfectionism第2页第3页第4页Learntofailorfailtolearn第5页Crisis(WeiJi)DangerandOpportunity第6页“Thegreatestmistakeamancanmakeistobeafraidofmakingone.” ElbertHubbard第7页ThePathofFailureAge22:LostjobAge23:DefeatedforstatelegislatureAge24:FailedinbusinessAge27:NervousbreakdownAge34:RanforcongressanddefeatedAge39:DefeatedagainAge46:RanforsenateanddefeatedAge47:DefeatedfornominationforvicepresidentAge50:DefeatedagainforsenateAge51:16thUSPresident第8页“Freedomisnotworthhavingifitdoesnotconnotefreedomtoerr.” MohandasGandhi第9页“Theimportantworkofmovingtheworldforwarddoesnotwaittobedonebyperfectmen.”GeorgeEliot第10页第11页第12页第13页第14页ThomasWatsonSr.IBMAmyEdmondson(1999)“PsychologicalSafety”“Ifyouwanttoincreaseyoursuccessrate,doubleyourfailurerate.” ThomasWatsonSr.“OriginsofGenius”(Simonton,1999)Failyourwaytosuccess(Klem,1997)第15页Perfectionismisanincapacitatingfearoffailurethatpermeatesourlives,especiallythoseareasthatwecareaboutmost.Itisanapproach,acognitiveandemotionalschema,thatweholdtowardthejourneyofourlives,towardtheprocessofgettingfrompointAtopointB.第16页PerfectionVs.ExcellenceCharacteristicsDefensiveOpentoSuggestionsHalfEmptyHalfFullOverGeneralizeRealisticNoSelf-AcceptanceUnconditionalAcceptanceStaticDynamicPerfectionExcellenceFearoffailureFailureasfeedbackFocusonDestinationJourneyandDestination第17页PerfectionVs.ExcellenceConsequencesTemporaryReliefLastingSatisfactionInevitableFailurePossibilityofSuccessWastestimeAppropriateTimeAllocationPronetodisordersHealthyApproachHurtsSelf-EsteemContinuousImprovementHarmsRelationshipsAllowsforGrowthAnxiety/StressCreativeTensionPerfectionExcellencePerformance?LessPainMoreGain第18页LessPainMoreGain??*@#!!#??SustainableapproachtogrowthProcrastinationHigherlevelsofself-confidenceLearntofailorfailtolearn‘TheLuckFactor’(Wiseman,2023)Creativity(Simonton,1999)80/20Rule(Pareto’sPrinciple)Increaseinflowexperiences(Csikszentmihalyi,1991)第19页SourceofPerfectionismConditioningDestination=Reward=AcceptanceJourney=Unrewarded=MeansOnlySocialenvironmentPermissiontobehuman?第20页第21页第22页第23页第24页第25页第26页“Emphasizingeffortgivesachildavariablethattheycancontrol.Theyetoseethemselvesasincontroloftheirsuccess.Emphasizingnaturalintelligencetakesitoutofthechild’scontrol,anditprovidesnogoodrecipeforrespondingtoafailure.”IntelligenceversusEffortHarmfulPraise?(Dweck,2023)“Whenyoupraisekids'intelligenceandthentheyfail,theythinkthey'renotsmartanymore,andtheyloseinterestintheirwork.Incontrast,kidspraisedforeffortshownoimpairmentandoftenareenergizedinthefaceofdifficulty.”FixedversusMalleable第27页OveringPerfectionismAwareness第28页第29页OveringPerfectionismAwarenessFocuson,andreward,effortActiveAcceptanceBehaviorchangesattitudeMeditationandvisualizationSettingaliberatinggoalorvisionThePlatinumRuleHelpingothers?第30页Applyingthe3P’s…1.PermissionAcceptanceRespectforreality2.PositiveBenefit