高三英语作文How-to-Make-Friends总5

高三英语作文：How-to-Make-Friends(总5页)Let'sbehonest,therearetimeswhenyouwanttoknowhowtomakefriends.Youmaybereadingthisbecauseyouareshyorunsureofhowtoapproachaperson.Maybeyouarejustnotconfidentbecauseyou'reafraidpeoplemaynotreactthewayyouwantthemto.Butitisnotveryhardtomakefriends;itisjustwhatyouthinkitisthatmakesyounotwillingtodoit.Continuereadingtofindouthow!Steps1.

Spendmoretimearoundpeople.

Don'tbemeanorrude;youdonotwanttoloseanypotentialfriends.Beniceandfriendly.Ifyouwanttomakefriends,youfirstneedtoputyourselfouttheresomehowinordertomeetpeople.Ifyoujustsitalone,friendsmightcometoyou,butthat'snotlikely.Ifyou'restillinschool,sitsomewherewithotherpeople.Itdoesn'thavetobethe"popular"/"cool"table,oracrowdedone,butonewithatleasttwootherpeople.Hangoutwithmanyothers.Thepopularkidswon'tmatterwhenyou'reolder,butatruefriendwillbethereforyouforever.Remember,friendsseldomcomeknockingonyourdoorwhileyousitathomeplayingonyourlaptop.Popularpeoplearen'talwaysgoingtobemeantoyou.Theyjustneedtoknowyoualittlebetter.2.

Joinanorganizationorclubwithpeoplewhohavecommoninterests.

Youdon'tnecessarilyneedtohavealotofcommoninterestswithpeopleinordertomakefriendswiththem.Infact,someofthemostrewardingfriendshipsarebetweentwopeoplewhodon'thavemuchincommonatall,butifyoulikeaspecifictopic,trysearchingforjustalocation.It'sagreatwaytomeetnewlocalpeople!SocialnetworkingsitessuchasFacebook,TwitterandGoogle+aregreatwaytomeetnewpeopleandlearnmoreaboutthepeopleyoumeet.WhenyouarechattingjustsayareyouonFacebook?OrwhatisyournameonTwitter?Achurch,Mosque,templeorotherhouseofworshipisagreatplacetostartsinceyouhaveatleasthaveareligiousfaithincommon.However,ifyoudoenterareligiousbuilding,remembertoberespectfulinthehouseoftheirGod.Justremembertobesafeontheinternet,youdon'tknowwhoisactuallyontheotherendmostofthetime.Whichisgood.3.

Joinasportsteam.

Acommonmisconceptionaboutthisisthatyouhavetobereallygoodatplayingaparticularsportinordertomakefriendswithothersontheteam,butnotallteamsaresocompetitive.Aslongasyouenjoythesportandsupportyourteammates,joiningalocalteamwithalaid-backattitudecouldbeagreatwaytomakenewfriends.Butasportsteamisn'ttheonlyway.Ifyouplay

instruments

or

sing,tryjoiningabandorchoir.4.

Volunteer.

Volunteeringisalsoagreatwayforpeopleofallagestomeetothers.Byworkingtogetheryoubuildbondswithpeople,andyoumightmeetotherswhohaveapassionforchangingthingsthewayyoudo(acommoncause).5.

Talktopeople.

Youcanjoinaclub,gotoschool,orgotochurchbutyoustillwon'tmakefriendsifyoudon'tactuallytalktopeople.Bythesametoken,youdon'thavetobeinvolvedwithanorganizationtobesocial,andanytimeyoutalktosomeone,youhaveachanceatmakingalastingfriend.Youcan

talktoanybody:theclerkatthevideostore,thepersonsittingnexttoyou

onthebus,orthepersoninfrontofyouinthelunchline.Don'tbetoopicky.Mostconversationswillbeadead-endofsorts,whenyoumaynevertalktothatpersonagain,oryoujustremainacquaintances—butonceinawhileyou'llactuallymakeafriend.6.

Makeeyecontact

and

smile.

Ifyouhavean

unfriendly

countenance,peoplearelesslikelytobereceptivetoyourfriendship.Trynotsquinting(getsomeglasses),lookingbored,frowningorappearingblankly

deadpan,foldingyourarms(thispracticallyscreams"don'ttalktome")orhangingoutinacorner;suchhabitsmaymakeyoulooktroubledordisinterested.7.

Startaconversation.

Therearemanywaystodothis;acommentaboutyourimmediateenvironment(Theweatherisaclassic:"Atleastit'snotraininglikelastweek!"),arequestforhelp("Canyouhelpmecarryafewboxes,ifyouhaveaminute?"or"Canyouhelpmedecidewhichoneoftheseisabettergiftformymom?")oracompliment("That'sanicecar."or"Iloveyourshoes.").Followupimmediatelywitharelatedquestion:Doyoulikethiswarmweather?Whatkindsofgiftsdoyounormallybuyforyourmom?Wheredidyougetshoeslikethat?8.

Makesmalltalk.

Keepthe

30%talking/70%listening,ratioinmindduringsmalltalkwhenpossible.Keepinmindthatthisisonlyageneralrule,andthattheoptimalratiooflisteningtotalkingisdependentonroomtemperature,timeofday,andnumberofconversationalparticipants.9.

Introduceyourself

attheendoftheconversation.

Itcanbeassimpleassaying"Oh,bytheway,mynameis...".Onceyou

introduceyourself,theotherpersonwilltypicallydothesame.Rememberhisorhername!Ifyoushowthatyourememberedthingsfromyourpastconversation(s)withtheperson,notonlywillyoulookintelligentbutheorshewillseethatyouwerepayingattentionandarewillingtobeatruefriend.10.

Initiateaget-together.

Youcanchatyourheartoutbutitwon'tgetyouafriendifyoudon'topenuptheopportunityforanotherconversationormeeting.Thisisespeciallyimportantifyoumeetsomeonewhoyouaren'totherwiselikelytomeetagain.Seizetheday!11.

Pursuecommoninterests.

Ifyou'vediscoveredthatthepersonyou'retalkingtohasacommoninterest,askthemmoreaboutitand,ifappropriate,whethertheygettogetherwithothers(inaclub,forexample)topursuethisinterest.Ifso,thisisaperfectopportunitytoaskaboutjoiningthem.Ifyouclearlyexpressinterest(when?where?cananyonecome?)they'llprobablyinviteyou.Ifyouhaveaclub,band,church,etc.thatyouthinktheymightenjoy,taketheopportunitytogivethemyournumberoremailaddressandinvitethemtojoinyou.12.

Askthemoutforlunchorcoffee.

Thatwillgiveyouabetteropportunitytotalkandgettoknoweachotheralittlebitbetter.Agoodwaytoextendyourselfistosay:"Hey,well,I'vegottogo,butifyoueverwanttotalkoverlunchorcoffeeoranythinglikethat,letmegiveyoumynumber/e-mailaddress."Thisgivesthepersontheopportunitytocontactyou;theymayormaynotgiveyoutheirinformationinreturn,butthat'sfine.Maybetheydon'thavetimefornewfriends—don'ttakeitpersonally!Justofferyourcontactinformationtowhoeverseemstobepotentiallyagoodfriend,andeventuallysomebodywillgetintouch.13.

Don'tdoanythingtopressuresomeoneintobeingfriendswithyou.

Neverchideacquaintancesforfailingtoinviteyoutoaparty,forexample;don'tcallsomeonerepeatedlyorstopbyuninvited(unlessyouhaveestablishedthatstoppingbyunannouncedisOK);andrefrainfromoverstayingyourwelcomeanywhere.Ingeneral,takefriendshipslowly,anddon'ttrytoforceintimacytogrowquickly.Themovefromacquaintancetofriendcantakealongtime.It'sunderstandabletowantmoreofagoodthing,buttrytoerronthesideofless.Ifyouarenotsureaboutthepaceofyournewfriendship,checkinwithyourfriendandaskdirectly.Toomuch,toofastcanbescaryorintimidating,andnoteverybodyisabletosay"Slowdown..."-instead,theymayruntheotherway!14.

Beloyaltoafriend.

You'veprobablyheardoffair-weatherfriends.They'retheoneswhoarehappytobearoundyouwhenthingsaregoingwell,butarenowheretobefoundwhenyoureallyneedthem.Partofbeingafriendisbeingpreparedtomakesacrificesofyourtimeandenergyinordertohelpoutyourfriends.Ifafriendneedshelpwithanunpleasantchore,orifheorshejustneedsashouldertocryon,

bethere.

Ifyourfriendsmakeajoke,laughwiththem.Nevercomplainaboutafriend.15.

Beagoodfriend.

Onceyou'vestartedspendingtimewithpotentialfriends,remembertodoyourpart(e.g.initiatingsomeoftheactivities,rememberingbirthdays,askinghowtheotherpersonisfeeling)orelsethefriendshipwillbecomeunbalancedandanuneasinessordistanceislikelytoarise.16.

Bereliable.

Ifyouandyourfriendagreetomeetsomewhere,don'tbelate,anddonot

standthemup.Ifyou'renotgoingtomakeitontimeormakeitatall,callthemassoonasyourealizeit.

Apologize

andasktoreschedule.Don'tmakethemwaitforyouunexpectedly;it'srude,anditiscertainlynotagoodwayto

launch

apotentialfriendship.Whenyousayyou'lldosomething,doit.Besomeonethatpeopleknowthattheycancounton.17.

Beagoodlistener.

Manypeoplethinkthatinordertobeseenas"friendmaterial"theyhavetoappearveryinteresting.Farmoreimportantthanthis,however,istheabilitytoshowthatyou're

interested

inothers.

Listen

carefullytowhatpeoplesay,rememberimportantdetailsaboutthem(theirnames,theirlikesanddislikes),askquestionsabouttheirinterests,andjusttakethetimetolearnmoreaboutthem.Youdon'twanttobetheguyorgirlthatalwayshasabetterstorythananyoneelseorthatchangesthesubjectabruptlyinsteadofcontinuingtheflowofconversation.Thesepeopleappeartoowrappedupinthemselvestobegood—"one-ups-man-ship"isaputdown.18.

Betrustworthy.

Oneofthebestthingsabouthavingafriendisthatyouhavesomeonetowhomyoucantalkaboutanything,evensecretsthatyouhidefromtherestoftheworld.Thekeytobeingagoodconfidanteistheabilityto

keepsecrets,soit'snosecretthatyoushouldn'ttellotherpeoplethingsthatweretoldtoyouinconfidence.Keepinmindthatrecentstudiesshowthatpeoplerarelykeepsecrets.Beforepeopleevenfeelcomfortableopeninguptoyou,however,youneedto

buildtrust.19.

Chooseyourfriendswisely.

Asyoubefriendmorepeople,youmayfindthatsomeareeasiertogetalongwiththanothers.Whileyoualwaysgivepeoplethebenefitofthedoubt,sometimesyourealizethatcertainfriendshipsare

unhealthy,suchasifapersonisobsessivelyneedyorcontrollingtowardsyou,constantlycritical,orintroducingdangersorthreatsintoyourlife.Ifthisisthecase,easeyourwayoutofthefriendshipasgracefullyaspossible.Preoccupyyourselfwithotherthings,suchasanew

volunteer

opportunity,sothatyoucanhonestlysaythatyoudon'thaveenoughtimeinyourscheduletospendtimewiththem(butdon'tsubstitutetheirtimefortimewithotherfriends;theymaynoticeandbecomejealous,andmoredramawillensue).Cherishthosefriendsyoumakewhoareapositiveinfluenceinyourlife,anddoyourbesttobeapositiveinfluenceintheirs.20.

Putemphasisonthegood,uniquequalitiesaboutyourself.

Areyoufunny?Ifyes,thengreat,alittlehumoralwayskeepsconversationlightandhappy,andpeoplelovetobearoundsomeonewhomakesthemlaugh.Ifyouhaveaquirky,differentstyleofhumorthenmakesureyouletthemknowthatthethingsyousayareinfactajoke,sothatyoudon'tjustcomeacrossassimplyweird.Thiswaytheywillunderstandabitmoreaboutyoutoo,whichcouldpotentiallysparktheirinterest.Ifyouareauniqueperson,thenshowit!21.

Encourageyourfriend:

Averygoodfriendencouragestheirfriend.Theywillremainwiththeminbothgoodaswellasbadtimes.Neverevermakefunorlaughatyourfriendinfrontofothers.Ifsomeoneismakingfunofthemagoodfriendwillcometosaveorsupporttheirfriend.22.

Beconfident.

Manypeoplearenotveryconfident.Theyarereserved,timidandafraidtostartaconversation.Maketheeffortandstarttalkingnomatterhowuncomfortableitfeels.23.

Don'tseparateyourfriendfromtherestofthegroup.

Somepeoplegetjealousoftheirfriendsiftheytalktootherpeopleormakeotherfriends.Mostpeopledon'tlikeitandwouldnolongerwanttohangoutwithyou.24.

Keepin

touch.

Manypeopleoftentimeslosecontactwiththeirfriendsbecausethey'reeithertoobusy,orjustdon'tvaluetheirfr