30岁弄明白的30个道理

1/130岁弄明白的30个道理30岁弄明白的30个道理

Marc刚过完他的30岁生日，并共享了他近几年刚刚明白的30个道理。

Thesearesimplelessonsaboutlifeingeneralthathepickedupwhiletraveling,livingindifferentcities,workingfordifferentcompanies(andhimself)，andmeetingremarkableandunusualpeopleeverywhereinbetween。

这些简洁的人生阅历之谈，都是他从旅行中，从不同城市、不同公司的生活和工作经受中，从与世界各地优秀人物的交往中拾取的。

1.Therecomesapointinlifewhenyougettiredofchasingeveryoneandtryingtofixeverything,butitsnotgivingup.Itsrealizingyoudontneedcertainpeopleandthingsandthedramatheybring。

2.Ifapersonwantstobeapartofyourlifetheywillmakeanobviousefforttodoso.Dontbotherreservingaspaceinyourheartforpeoplewhodonotmakeanefforttostay。

3.Ifyouwanttofly,youhavetogiveupthethingsthatweighyoudown–whichisnotalwaysasobviousandeasyasitsounds。

4.Doingsomethingandgettingitwrongisatleasttentimesmoreproductivethandoingnothing。

5.Everysuccesshasatrailoffailuresbehindit,andeveryfailureisleadingtowardssuccess.Youdontfailbyfallingdown.Youfailbynevergettingbackup.Sometimesyoujusthavetoforgethowyoufeel,rememberwhatyoudeserve,andkeeppushingforward。

6.Whenyougettoknowpeoplewithdifferentethnicbackgrounds,fromdifferentcitiesandcountries,wholiveatvarioussocioeconomiclevels,youbegintorealizethateveryonebasicallywantsthesamethings.Theywantvalidation,love,happiness,fulfillmentandhopesforabetterfuture.Thewaytheypursuethesedesiresiswherethingsbranchoff,butthefundamentalsarethesame.Youcanrelatetoalmosteveryoneeverywhereifyoulookpastthesuperficialfacadesthatdivideus。

7.Themorethingsyouown,themoreyourthingsownyou.Lesstrulygivesyoumorefreedom.ReadTheJoyofLess。

8.Whileyourebusylookingfortheperfectperson,youllprobablymisstheimperfectpersonwhocouldmakeyouperfectlyhappy.Thisisastrueforfriendshipsasitisforintimaterelationships.Findingacompanionorafriendisntabouttryingtotransformyourselfintotheperfectimageofwhatyouthinktheywant.Itsaboutbeingexactlywhoyouareandthenfindingsomeonewhoappreciatesthat。

9.Relationshipsmustbechosenwisely.Itsbettertobealonethantobeinbadcompany.Theresnoneedtorush.Ifsomethingismeanttobe,itwillhappen–intherighttime,withtherightperson,andforthebestreason。

10.Makingathousandfriendsisnotamiracle.Amiracleismakingonefriendwhowillstandbyyoursidewhenthousandsareagainstyou。

11.Someonewillalwaysbebetterlooking.Someonewillalwaysbesmarter.Someonewillalwaysbemorecharismatic.Buttheywillneverbeyou–withyourexactideas,knowledgeandskills。

12.Makingprogressinvolvesrisk.Period.Youcantmakeittosecondbasewithyourfootonfirst。13.Everymorningyouarefacedwithtwochoices:Youcanaimlesslystumblethroughthe

daynotknowingwhatsgoingtohappenandsimplyreacttoeventsatamomentsnotice,oryoucangothroughthedaydirectingyourownlifeandmakingyourowndecisionsanddestiny.ReadThe7HabitsofHighlyEffectivePeople。

14.Everyonemakesmistakes.Ifyoucantforgiveothers,dontexpectotherstoforgiveyou.Toforgiveistosetaprisonerfreeanddiscovertheprisonerwasyou。

15.Itsokaytofallapartforalittlewhile.Youdontalwayshavetopretendtobestrong,andthereisnoneedtoconstantlyprovethateverythingisgoingwell.Youshouldntbeconcernedwithwhatotherpeoplearethinkingeither–cryifyouneedto–itshealthytoshedyourtears.Thesooneryoudo,thesooneryouwillbeabletosmileagain。

16.Wesometimesdothingsthatarepermanentlyfoolishjustbecausewearetemporarilyupset.Alotofheartachecanbeavoidedifyoulearntocontrolyouremotions。

17.Someoneelsedoesnthavetobewrongforyoutoberight.Therearemanyroadstowhatsright.Youcannotjudgeothersbyyourownpast.Theyarelivingadifferentlifethanyou.Whatmightbegoodforonepersonmaynotbegoodforanother.Whatmightbebadforonepersonmightchangeanotherpersonslifeforthebetter.Youhavetoallowpeopletomaketheirownmistakesandtheirowndecisions。

18.Nobodyisperfect,andnobodydeservestobeperfect.Nobodyhasiteasy.Youneverknowwhatpeoplearegoingthrough.Everyoneofushasissues.Sodontbelittleyourselforanyoneelse.Everybodyisfightingtheirownuniquewar。

19.Asmiledoesntalwaysmeanapersonishappy.Sometimesitsimplymeanstheyarestrongenoughtofacetheirproblems。

20.ThehappiestpeopleIknowkeepanopenmindtonewideasandventures,usetheirleisuretimeasameansofmentaldevelopment,andlovegoodmusic,goodbooks,goodpictures,goodcompanyandgoodconversation.Andoftentimestheyarealsothecauseofhappinessinothers–meinparticular。

21.Youcanttakethingstoopersonally.Rarelydopeopledothingsbecauseofyou.Theydothingsbecauseofthem。

22.Feelingschange,peoplechange,andtimekeepsrolling.Youcanholdontopastmistakesoryoucancreateyourownhappiness.Asmileisachoice,notamiracle.Truehappinesscomesfromwithin.Dontmakethemistakeofwaitingonsomeoneorsomethingtocomealongandmakeyouhappy。

23.Itsmuchhardertochangethelengthofyourlifethanitistochangethedepthofit。

24.YouendupregrettingthethingsyoudidNOTdofarmorethanthethingsyoudid。

25.Whenyoustopchasingthewrongthingsyougivetherightthingsachancetocatchyou。

26.Oneofthegreatestchallengesinlifeisbeingyourselfinaworldthatstryingtomakeyoulikeeveryoneelse。

27.Enjoythelittlethings,becauseonedayyoumaylookbackanddiscovertheywerethebigthings.ReadTheBookofAwesome。

28.Anyonecanmakeadifference.Makingonepersonsmilecanchangetheworld.Maybenotthewholeworld,buttheirworld