UNIT 4勘探1304 刘大鹏

1、UNIT 4 SECTION A 勘探1304 刘大鹏 201311010409Dont like the lion. About the first impression. First impression is always the most important thing when you meet a stranger . It takes just a quick glance, maybe three seconds, for someone to understand you when you meet for the first time. In this short time

2、, the other person forms an opinion about you based on your appearance , your manners and even your behaviours that tell them what type of person you are and your characteristics. Seven secondsResearch shows we make up our minds about people through unspoken communication within seven seconds of mee

3、ting them .Consciously or unconsciously, we show our true feelings with our eyes , faces , bodies and attitudes, causing a chain of reactions, ranging from comfort to fear.Think about some of your most unforgettable meetings: an introduction to your future spouse(配偶), a job interview, an encounter(偶

4、然相遇) with a strange. Focus on the first seven seconds. What did you feel and think? How did you read the other person? How do you think he read you ? You are the messageYou are the message. For 25 years Ive worked with thousands who want to be successful. Ive helped them make persuasive presentation

5、s , answer unfriendly questions, communication more effective. The secret has always been you are the messages. Others will want to be with you and help you if you use your good qualities. They include : physical appearance, energy , rate of speech , pitch and tone of voice, gestures expression thro

6、ugh the eyes, and the ability to hold the interest of others. Others form an impression about you based on these . Think of times when you know you made a good impression. What made you successful? You were committed to what you were talking about and so absorbed in the moment, you lost all self-con

7、sciousness. Be yourselfBe yourself. Many how-to books advise you to stride into a room and impress others with your qualities. They instruct you to greet them with power handshakes and tell you to fix your eyes on the other person. If you follow all this advise, youll drive everyone crazy-including

8、yourself The trick is to be consistently you, at your best. The most effective people never change from one situation to another. Theyre the same whether theyre having a conversation, addressing their garden club or being interviewed for a job. They communication with their whole being; the tones of

9、 their voices and their gestures match their words. Use your eyes Use your eyes. Whether youre talking to one person or one hundred , always remember to look at them. Some people start to say something while looking right at you , but three words into the sentence , they break eye contact and look o

10、ut the window. As you enter a room , move your eyes comfortably; then look straight at those in the room and smile. Smiling is important. It shows you are relaxed. Some think entering a room full of people is like going into a lions cage. I disagree, If I did agree, I certainly wouldnt look at my fe

11、et or at ceiling. Id keep my eye on the lion! Lighten upLighten up. Once in a staff meeting, one of the most powerful chairmen in the entertainment industry became very angry over tiny problems, scolded each worker and enjoyed making them fear him. When he got to me ,he shouted, And you , Alies, wha

12、t are you doing? I said , Do you mean now, this evening or for the rest of my life? There was a moment of silence. Then the chairman threw back his head and roared with laughter. Others laughed too, Humor broke the stress of a very uncomfortable scene. If I had to give advice in two words , it would

13、 be lighten up ! You can always see people who take themselves too seriously. Usually they are either brooding or talking a great deal about themselves. Take a good hard look at yourself . Do you say I too often? Are you usually focused on your own problems? Do you complain frequently? If you answer

14、ed yes to even one of these questions, you need to lighten up. To make others comfortable, you have to appear comfortable yourself. Dont make any huge changes; just be yourself. You already have within you the power to make a good impression, because nobody can be you as well as you can.Answer the f

15、ollowing question. 1.How do we show our true feelings during the first seven seconds when we meet someone? 2.What good qualities do you use if you want others to be with you and help you? 3.Why do many how-to books fail to help us make a good impression? 4.What should you do if you want to be consis

16、tently you at your best? 5.What does the writer mean by saying “public speakers often send mixed messages”? 6.What should we do when we enter a room full of people according to the writer? 7.What does the writer mean by the phrase “lighten up” in paragraph 12 ? 8.Why does the writer believe we have

17、the power to make a good impression?New wordsconscious kns adj. 自觉的；有知觉的；意识到的；感到的；知道的 神志清醒的 能感觉和思考的 有意的，故意的，蓄意的，存心的 废语内疚的，自觉有罪的 n. the conscious 【心理学】意识 词组短语 conscious of 意识到 become conscious of 观察到 safety conscious adj. 有安全意识的 同近义词 adj. 意识到的；故意的；神志清醒的 aware , intended , studied , designed 同根词 词根： c

18、onscious adv.consciously 自觉地；有意识地 n.consciousness 意识；知觉；觉悟；感觉 词语辨析 conscious, aware conscious a.有意识的，意识到的，一般指内心所意识到的。 The salesman is conscious of the fact that he must increase sales.销售员意识到他必须增加销售量。 aware a.知道的，意识到的，强调感官对外界事物的意识。 He was aware of his mistake.他意识到自己的错误。encounter inkaunt vt. 意外地遇见，偶然碰

19、见，与(友人等)邂逅：She encountered an old friend on the road. 她在路上偶然碰到一位老朋友。 意外地遇到：to encounter a new situation 意外地遇到新形势 受到，遭遇，遭受，遭到(困难、麻烦、反对等)：We encounter so many problems in our work. 我们在工作中遇到如此多的问题。 n.相见，相会；尤指意外(或偶然、短暂)的相遇；遭遇；邂逅 词组短语 encounter with 遭遇，遇到 close encounter 近距离接触；紧密交会 同近义词 vt. 遭遇，邂逅；遇到 confront , bring up against n. 遭遇，偶然碰见 fell in with , lit on vi. 遭遇；偶然相遇 bring up against , run into 词语辨析 face, encounter, meet, contact, confront 这组词都有“遇见，会见，碰见”的意思，其区别是： face 侧重双方静止地面对面，或指指充满勇气、信心和决心正视人或事。 encounter 通常指遇到困难或挫折，也指偶然或意外地相遇。 meet 普通用词，本义指双方或多方从不同方向或相反方向作向对运动，最终相碰(遇)。 con