生活总有不顺坚持自我永不放弃!

1、You failed to close the business deal after all the hard work? Hit a rough patch in relationship and he or she left? Your friendship ends even though youve cared and cherished him or her all the time?虽然努力工作了，但还是搞砸了？虽然两人已经历过了坎坷，但他/她还是离开了？虽然你一直都很在意很珍惜她/他，但友谊还是走到了尽头？Inevitably, life throws a lemon to u

2、s and it makes us sour and heartbroken. Dont let it drag you down. You dont even need advice or tons of motivational books to pick yourself up. Here are four simple steps to deal with disappointments in life:无疑，生活给我们的生活中放入了酸酸的味道，让我们心酸、心痛。但不要因此而颓废。你甚至也不需要别人的建议或是书上来的指南让自己振作起来。这里就有一些小方法可以帮你应对生活中的失望。1.

3、Release the pain释放痛苦Cry, as hard as you want, as loud as you need. If you want to scream, go ahead. Its okay to feel down. You dont have to be strong all the time. Forget about looking at the bright side, be happy and so on. Theres no room for positivity now. You need to express all the sadness, ang

4、er and frustrations first. Remove them all. Leave no trace. I cried for days as I didnt do well in my Electone exam.想要哭的时候就哭吧，使劲儿的哭，大声地哭。想叫就大声地叫出来。不管是怎样，只要你觉得能让自己感觉好起来。你不必一直坚强。不要老惦记着让自己看到正能量，让自己开心等。悲伤的事太多，积极已经无处堆放。首先你需要做的就是宣泄出你的悲伤、生气、沮丧。把一切不开心的都发泄出来。不要留下任何痕迹，我曾经就因为没有通过电子琴考试而哭了好几天。2. Gain some suppor

5、t 获得支持Finished crying? Now your heart may be empty. Get some love whether its a hug or a pat on the shoulder. No one around? Hug your pet or your pillow. After all, you dont need any advice for now. Dont try to settle anything. Just seek some comfort, something you can hold on to. Make yourself feel

6、 better first.发泄完了没？现在也许心里还有点空落落的。得到爱的力量-不管是一个拥抱还是别人轻轻地拍了拍你的肩膀。都没有？抱抱你的宠物-或者是你的枕头。毕竟你现在也不需要任何的建议。不要试着去处理任何事情。只要找到一些让你觉得舒适的，你可以紧紧抓住的东西。首先要让你自己好起来。3. Clear your mind理清思绪Take a walk. Look at nature. If you can, pack light and just go travel. Release yourself from all the expectations and allow yourself

7、 to breathe, relax and calm down. All you need is time and let things settle down naturally. They will. And remember not to blame or judge anyone, especially yourself. Instead, be kind to yourself.散散步，看看大自然。如果有条件，还可以轻装去旅行。把自己从所有的期望中释放出来，让自己可以缓口气，放松，平静下来。你需要的就是时间，让事情自然地平淡下来。都会平淡的。记住：不要责怪、评论任何人，特别是你自己

8、。还要对自己好一点。4. Face your problems面对问题Feeling better? Its time to clear things up. This is important because if you fail to learn from the issues, it may become a boomerang and keeps coming back to you.感觉好些了吗？是时候理清所有事情了。这是非常重要的因为要是你不能从这里面吸取教训，这也许会成为一个不定时炸弹，会让你再面对一次。Now write down your feelings. You can

9、 make a mind map too. The purpose is to have a fresh view on the big picture. Find out:现在请写下你的感觉。你也可以打个腹稿。写下来的目的就是对这一整件事有一个清晰的概念，弄清楚：What made you feel frustrated?是什么让你感觉沮丧？What did you expect?你那时候在期待什么？Why it didnt work out?为什么没有成功？Is it as bad as you think?有你想的那么糟吗？Is there anything you can do to

10、fix it?有什么补救法吗？What are all the steps (details) that you need to take?需要做些什么？If you think there are still ways to resolve the situation, act immediately. On the other hand, if you think its out of your control, you will need to let it go, and take it as it is. Believe that you tried your best. If yo

11、u didnt, promise yourself to be alert and take a better approach next time.要是你觉得还有方法可以补救，那就马上行动起来吧。一方面来说，要是你觉得事情已经不受你控制了，你就得学会放弃，让它回归它本来的模样。只要你认为你已经尽力了就好。要是你没有，那么下次一定要转变一下找到一个更好的办法。You see, sometimes life just doesnt grant our wishes and turn out the way we liked. But always believe that, everything

12、 happens for a reason a good reason. These experiences may look awful but they are precious. They help us to grow stronger, wiser, view things with a different perspective and learn to appreciate the things we have. They shape us to our better selves.有时候，你会发现生活不会是我们希冀的那样，也不会总按着我们想要的方式发展。但是请一定要相信，任何事情的发生都有其道理-一