存在你身上的无形压力英语

1、资料来源：来自本人网络整理！祝您工作顺利！存在你身上的无形压力英语 你是否经常觉得压力大而又找不到缘由?来看看以下可能被你忽视掉的缘由吧!接下来，我给大家预备了存在你身上的无形压力英语,欢送大家参考与借鉴。 存在你身上的无形压力英语 are you constantly stressed out? does your stress seem to have no immediate cause or solution? here are 10 hidden stressors that can make you miserable and ruin your life. many times

2、in life, it feels like everything is bad. you are so stressed that you cannot imagine a life without difficulty. well, a good life is possible. here are ten things to look for and handle that will smooth it all out for you and put you back in control. 1. recognize that there are people who are out t

3、o sabotage you and are intentionally trying to be difficult. yes, i know it sounds paranoid, but these people exist, and when you recognize that they exist and take actions to protect yourself and those around, your life can magically smooth out. back in the day i managed an insurance claims office.

4、 it was a very stressful job and the reason it was so stressful, i later found out, was because there were two of my staff members who had nothing better to do than stir the pot with their co-workers. they would tell one person lies about another person in the office, then go to the person that they

5、 had first slandered and tell lies about the other person. this pitted the two people against each other while the one manufacturing and telling the lies would sit back and watch the drama. it happened over and over again. the entire office was in chaos and my staff were at each others throats. it w

6、as all because of these two people. since the whole office was involved, i could not see the source of the trouble. it turned out that these two pot stirrers were also the least productive of my staff, so i ultimately fired them. after i did this, everything smoothed out and the work got done. it wa

7、s like magic. these people hide themselves well but here are some clues to spotting them: be suspicious when someone tells you gossip about a friend, family member or co worker. chances are they are telling lies and gossip about you to other people as well. be suspicious when someone laughs or takes

8、 pleasure in another persons pain or discomfort. this is a sign of sadistic personality. be suspicious when two people are constantly arguing and they cant solve their differences. when this occurs, suspect that there are lies being told by another person who does not appear to be part of the confli

9、ct. act accordingly. you can ask each one whether someone else has been talking down the other person. you could be very surprised. normal, ethical people have a hard time believing that someone would initiate hatred and upset just for sport, but it does happen and you need to be aware and protect y

10、ourself. be suspicious when someone you have been in good communication with suddenly is cold and hostile to you. ask that person who has said something negative about you and clear the air. then deal with the person telling the lies. the people who do these things depend on secrecy and confidential

11、ity, banking on the fact that the person being lied to will protect their secrets. dont play that game. open and clean communication is the key to harmony. when secret and harmful lies are told, it opens the door to hostility and chaos. 2. dont attempt to live up to someone elses expectations. not o

12、nly does this cause you stress, but it also limits you greatly! no one knows the miracles you are capable of but you. you are the only one who can shape and execute your goals. sometimes they differ greatly from what your parents or peers may want from you, but the bottom line is that you shape your

13、 own future, and if it is your plan and your goal, you will meet it as long as you dont agree with other peoples counter intentions. there is an unlimited future for you if you stop trying to be someone other than who you really are. 3. dont confuse the past with the present. everybody i know has ha

14、d many moments of pain and upset in the past, and nobody wants to repeat them. but fear of repeating painful moments or past mistakes can paralyze you in the present. just because you failed at something once doesnt mean you will fail at it again. our failures give us valuable experience that we can

15、 use for our next attempt. redefine failure for yourself. i personally believe that the only failure is giving up. which brings me to our next point. 4. dont give up on your goals failure is just lack of persistence. if you never give up, you have never failed. it is as simple as that. there are so

16、many things that our society defines as failures. things like losing money, finding out you wasted time or having something not turn out exactly as you wanted are not failures. there is a learning curve in life. with time and money, the simple rule of thumb is never bet more than you can afford to l

17、ose. as far as things not turning out the way you wanted, keep at it until they do, but dont ignore the fact that sometimes they turn out even better if you allow yourself to see beyond your set idea of success. for each step on the way, use what you have and make it better. your goals can be fluid.

18、 they can change as you learn more about how to achieve them. it is ok to start with the goal of finding a castle and end up with a little cottage by the sea if that is what makes you happy. dont let others make you stick to an original goal if you find that it is no longer what you want. 5. dont li

19、sten to people who are negative about your dreams. a person without dreams and goals is a very sad person indeed. they have nothing that pushes and drives them to put one foot in front of the other. your goals dont have to be giant and they dont have to be something that everyone else agrees on. all

20、 they have to be is yours. i once had a sky high goal of purchasing a property abroad. i spent hours researching, dreaming, saving money and telling all my friends how great it was going to be. some people came out of the wood work to tell me how stupid it was to even consider doing so. i went ahead

21、 with my plan and did it anyway. that has been the single most exciting and wonderful thing i have ever done. set your goals sky high and go after them. if you fail, think of a another way to get what you want. there are many ways to go about achieving goals. keep thinking up new ones if the old one

22、s dont work. 6. prepare yourself for what you know is coming. this is vital. those who know me know that i am a musician and an instructor. the biggest barrier my students face is overcoming stage fright. this is crippling for so many people. my one piece of advice is prepare your act so well that y

23、ou can perform it even if a volcano is erupting in front of you. many times, stress is simply fear of the unknown. you never know what is going to happen and if you are well prepared, you know you will pull it off. you cannot deal with the uncertainties of performing or even making a presentation at

24、 work or asking for a raise unless you prepare your act in advance and allow for every possible unexpected occurrence. this can be true for anything in life that you have difficulty with. i am sure that the best marriage proposals in history were very well rehearsed. 7. stop listening to those nasty

25、 little doubts inside your head. those little doubts are not some unconscious positive influence. they are not angels or divine advice. they are internal sabotage mechanisms. listen to them at your peril. so many times i have seen people give up their dreams because of these stupid doubts. what i ha

26、ve also seen is that the more you listen to them and take their advice, the stronger they get and the weaker you get. how many brilliant people with brilliant ideas have been idle because they listened to their inner doubts? there is nothing to be gained by running around inside your head and listen

27、ing to those little creepy doubts that arise for no reason at all. kick them to the curb. instead say this to yourself: i am strong and smart enough to do this. anything that says otherwise is completely wrong and i wont listen to it. i will keep going on my path. 8. stop looking for the bad in your

28、self and others and start looking for and praising the good. this is something that turned my life around recently. i wrote a blog about it because it completely salvaged my relationship with my children. as an artist and instructor, i am constantly looking for tiny imperfections that, when correcte

29、d, make my performance and those of my students better. as a result i can see the most imperceptible imperfections in anything. it is a blessing and a curse. i can use this to get my students to a very high level of perfection but, if not controlled, it can make it impossible for them to live up to

30、what they believe my expectations are and theirs should be. while it is good to see imperfections, it is bad to focus only on those. one must see the good and the perfect in people in order for them to have the confidence to go after and achieve their own goals. if you see and comment upon the good

31、in people and ignore the bad habits and things that irritate you, you will build great relationships with others and your stress level will dramatically decrease. try it! go to the supermarket and find something you like about the clerk. tell them you like their earrings or whatever. you will get a

32、smile, a nice chat and you will have made someones day. go practice this! its fun! 9. if your boss or job is stressing you out and you cannot find a way to change it, get a new job! i know that changing jobs is very scary and that you may feel that there are no jobs out there. if this is the case, s

33、tart looking! sometimes, just knowing that there are jobs available can make your life that much less stressful. dont ignore other skills you have and a possible career change. dont ignore your dream career either. if you hate your job, decide what your dream job is, find out all about it and start

34、getting the skills together to go do it. the best day of my life was when i quit working in insurance and started teaching music. i had been a musician for years and for some dorky reason thought i could not teach. i started doing it and have been doing it happily ever since. there is no more stress

35、 coming from my job at all. what do you want to do? what skills do you have? get started! you can get through the worst day at your job if you know you are doing something to create your dream job in the future. 10. go find someone to help and help them. there is nothing more empowering than helping

36、 someone else. and there is no more powerful idea a person can have about himself or herself than the fact that they are worthy of being helped. when you carry someones groceries or hold the door open or (my favorite) buy their girl scout cookies, you are letting them know they are worthy of being helped. it