西方礼仪文化unit5TheEtiquetteatWeddingCeremony

1、Lead-in Suppose you are going to get married soon. Will you adopt the western style wedding ceremony or Chinese style? Why? 2. Are you familiar with these words? Match the Chinese words on the left column with their appropriate English expressions on the right. 1) 婚誓a.wedding ceremony 2) 蜜月b. bride

2、3) 伴郎c. bridegroom or groom 4) 牧师d. officiator 5) 新娘e. pastor 6) 结婚典礼f. groomsman 7) 婚宴g. bridesmaid 8) 伴娘h. honeymoon 9) 主婚人i. wedding reception 10) 新郎j. vows Lead-in Have you ever attended or witnessed Western- style wedding? If yes, tell your partner how it looks like and how you feel about it. I

3、f not, imagine what it is like according to the knowledge youve got. Wedding Etiquette In your lifetime, you will likely attend many wedding ceremonies and receptions to celebrate the beginning of a couples new life together. The wedding ceremony presents a special day for the couple exchanging vows

4、. It may not be a big deal to you, but it is to them. Therefore you need to be on your best behaviour from beginning to end. 1. What should you do? You get a wedding invitation from your friend. Responding promptly. RSVP: French for repondez sil vous plait, or quite simply “please respond.” The coup

5、le will be making many decisions based on the number of people who will be there. If you must cancel after you have accepted, do so as soon as possible. While its considered very bad manners to respond after RSVP date, its even worse to show up at the wedding after having not replied at all. Being p

6、unctual. The invitation says the ceremony starts at five oclock. When should you arrive? lBe sure to arrive there by 4:45 so as to give yourself time to find a seat and get settled. lIf you are late and the processional or ceremony has already started, take your cue from the wedding coordinator or c

7、hurch coordinator. lIf the processional is in progress, dont interrupt. Dress appropriately lYour attire should be appropriate for the occasion. The place indicated in the card will give you an idea how formal the occasion will be. lKeep in mind religious customs that impose the dress code. lIn any

8、case, its better to be overdressed than underdressed. If the ceremony will be held in a church 2. How should you dress yourself ? If its a daytime wedding ceremony As a guest, find out what color the bridesmaids will be wearing, and choose something else. You dont want to be competing with the weddi

9、ng party for attention. Choose wisely Give something that will be appreciated by both the bride and the groom. Consider teaming up with a couple of friends to buy a bigger gift than each of you would give individually. 3. What gifts should you send? Be generous Determining the value of your gift can

10、 be a challenge. The rule of thumb is to give the equivalent of the cost of your meal, so if youre attending as a couple, double the amount. Cash or a check is a standard gift among many cultures, as is something from the gift registry. Give, no matter what If you returned your reply card saying you

11、re unable to attend, you must still send a gift to honor the occasion. If youre only invited for the dance or open bar (if there is one) after the dinner, you should still give a gift. Being polite at the wedding ceremony Being Considerate. Dont carry on a conversation with the person next to you wh

12、ile you are seated in church or crack jokes with the person across the pew. Be considerate of the Happy Couple and all others in attendance. 4. How to behave? Taking Pictures Do not take pictures during the ceremony. Many churches do not allow flash pictures and you may disturb the ceremony. The pro

13、fessional photographer is the only one who should be taking pictures and he/she will know the rules of the church or event center. Getting to know when to stand or sit At most ceremonies, the guests stand when the bride enters. Remain standing until the officiant asks you to be seated. When the cere

14、mony ends, remain in your seat until the ushers dismiss you, or if there are no ushers, until the mothers of the bride and groom have been escorted out. Allow family members of the bride and groom, who will be seated near the front, to exit first. Do remember to turn your cell phone on silent and le

15、t calls go to voice mail. Its considered poor wedding guest etiquette to call the bride or groom to ask if you can bring a guest. Dont bring anyone who is not included in the invitation letter. Do introduce yourself to everyone at your table at the reception, and make polite conversation. Dont pile

16、your plate full unless you are at the end of the line, if a buffet is served at the reception. Be courteous of those who have yet to eat. Dont drink too much. You are there to celebrate with the newlyweds, not embarrass yourself and them. Follow-up Practice 1. Guess how many years these items stand

17、for according to what you have got to know. Paper wedding Tin wedding Crystal wedding China wedding Silver wedding Pearl wedding Ruby wedding Sapphire wedding Golden wedding Emerald wedding Diamond wedding 纸婚、布婚（结婚一周年纸婚、布婚（结婚一周年) 锡婚（结婚十周年锡婚（结婚十周年) 水晶婚（结婚十五周年水晶婚（结婚十五周年) 搪瓷婚搪瓷婚(结婚二十周年结婚二十周年) 银婚（结婚二十五周

18、年）第一大典银婚（结婚二十五周年）第一大典 珍珠婚（结婚三十周年珍珠婚（结婚三十周年) 红宝石婚（结婚四十周年红宝石婚（结婚四十周年) 蓝宝石婚（结婚四十五周年蓝宝石婚（结婚四十五周年) 金婚（结婚五十周年）第二大典金婚（结婚五十周年）第二大典 翠玉婚（结婚五十五周年翠玉婚（结婚五十五周年) 钻石婚（结婚六十钻石婚（结婚六十-七十五周年七十五周年) 2. Compare Chinese wedding ceremony with western wedding ceremony. What are the differences? Make a list. 3. What do you thi

19、nk are the appropriate behaviors at a Chinese wedding ceremony? 4. Would you like to know more about the wedding etiquette? Go ahead to watch some movies. Runaway Bride My best friends wedding Four weddings and a funeral Bride wars . Being punctual. The invitation says the ceremony starts at five oc

20、lock. When should you arrive? lBe sure to arrive there by 4:45 so as to give yourself time to find a seat and get settled. lIf you are late and the processional or ceremony has already started, take your cue from the wedding coordinator or church coordinator. lIf the processional is in progress, dont interrupt. Dress appropriately lYour attire should be appropriate for the occasion. The plac