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西方礼仪(Western Manners) 精选相关链接:西方风情商务礼俗Some Common Manners in the West编辑 整理It is a great help for the person who is learning a foreign language to know some customs and manners for the people who speaks it, because the language is very closely associated with them. I will tell you some common western manners.1. Meeting and Greeting People1) GreetingThe simplest thing to say is Good morning, Good afternoon or good evening. This greeting is given to one whom you know only slightly, or to any one you are passing quickly. How are you is usually used when you are not in such a hurry. No answer is expected other than Fine, thank you. hello is the commonest form of greeting between good friends.2) When a Man Raises His HatIf you are wearing a hat which can be taken bold of easily, it is customary to raise it slightly off your head when you greet a girl or a woman.3) When to Shake HandsIt is customary to shake hands when you first meet someone. And usually friends shake hands when they meet after not having seen each other for some time. However it is not necessary to shake hands.4) Use the persons NameIt is always good form to use the name of the person you are greeting. You might say, Good Morning, Mr. Moncrieff or Hello, Franklin., A persons surname should be used unless he is good friend or school-mate.2. Introduction1) How to Introduce PeopleIn introducing two people, the general rule is: Introduce other people to the person you wish to honor. The old are honored in the West as in China. Women have been honoured in the West since the days of knighthood(骑士时代）.2) Rising at IntroductionA man always rise for an introduction, except that it is sometimes all right for an elderly man to remain seated when a young man is introduced to him. The hostess always rises for an introduction.3) Introducing YourselfIf you want to meet someone, it is better to ask a friend who know him to introduce you. But sometimes at a meeting or gathering it is all right to introduce yourself to a fellow-student, or to one of the same sex and position.3. Invitation1) You Must Reply to an InvitationForeign custom is much more strict than Chinese custom in the matter of replying to invitations. When you receive an invitation you should answer it immediately, saying definitely whether you are able to accept it or not.2) Written or Verbal ReplyIf the invitation is given by word of mouth, in conversation or at a chance meeting, you should answer at once whether you can come or not. If you cannot give an answer at that time, you may say, May I let you know this evening? Or some such words.4. In the Home1) The Right Time to ArriveWhen invited to luncheon, dinner, or supper, it is very impolite to arrive late, as it is usually planned to have the meal at the exact hour given in the invitation.2) In arrivalWhen you arrive, the hostess or some member of the family will probably meet you at the door and take your coat and hat. In the winter time you should dress more lightly than usually, as you may expect the rooms to be warmer than in most Chinese homes.3) In a few minutes the hostess will ask her guests to come in to dinner. She may or may not ask each gentleman to take a lady in. If she does, the lady will take the gentlemans arm as they walk into the dinning room. If she does not, the ladies will go in first, followed by the gentlemen. The hostess will either point out their seats to the guests as they come in or have a place card at each place with the guests name on it.4) How Long to StayAfter the meal is over it is not polite to leave for at least half an hour, lest you seem to have come only for the meal. An evening dinner invitation usually implies that you stay for the whole evening. The hostess often plans some after-dinner entertainment.5) What to Say on LeavingWhen leaving any kind of a party, a guest always expresses his appreciation to the hostess. Some such words as these are appropriate. Thank you so much. Ive had a delight evening.5. Table Manners1) As soon as the hostess picks up her napkin(餐巾）, pick yours up and lay it on your lap. Sometimes a roll of bread is wrapped in it; if so, toke it our and put it on your side plate.2) The Soup CourseDinner usually begins with soup. The largest spoon at your place is the soup spoon. It will be beside your plate at the right-hand side.3) The Fish CourseIf there is a fish course, it will probably follow the soup. There may be a special fork for the fish, or it may be similar to the meat fork. Often it is smaller.4) The Meat CourseThe main Course is usually served by the host himself, especially if it is a fowl(鸡禽） or a roast which need to be carved. He will often ask each guest what piece he prefers, and it is quite proper to state your preference as to lean or fat, dark（红肉） or light（白肉）.5) Using Knife and ForkIf you have English and American friends you will notice a few differences in their customs of eating. For the main or meat curse, the English keep the fork in the left hand, point curved downward, and bring the food to the mouth either by sticking the points onto it or in the case of soft vegetables, by placing it firmly on the fork in this position with the knife. Americans carve the meat in the same position, then lay down the knife and taking the fork in the right hand with the point turned up, push it under a small piece of food without the help of the knife and bring it to the moth right-side-up.6) Helping Yourself and RefusingIf a servant passes food around, he will pass the dish in at your left hand so that you can conveniently serve yourself with your right hand. Never serve yourself while the dish is on your right; it is then the turn of your neighbor on the right. It is polite to take some of everything that is passed to you. But if there is something you may not like, you may quietly say: No thank you.7) Second HelpingsThe hostess may or may not ask if you would like a second helping, according to the formality of the meal. If she does and you accept it, you should pass your plate to her or to the servant with the knife and fork still lying on it.8) The Salad CourseA salad is eaten with a fork only held in the right hand with points turned up. There is usually a special one for the salad, a little smaller than the meat fork.9) Bread and ButterBread is taken in the fingers and laid on the side plate or the edge of the large plate, it is never take with a fork. Butter is taken from the butter dish with the butter knife and placed on the side plate, not on ones bread.10) Other Things on the TableWhen there are things on the middle of the table, such as bread, butter, jelly, pickles, nits, candies, you should not take any until the hostess ahs suggested that they be passed.11) Leaving the TableIt is impolite for a guest to leave the table during a meal, or before the hostess gives the signal at the end. When the hostess indicates that the dinner is over, she will stat to rise from her seat and all the guests she rise from theirs at the same time.12) Various rules and SuggestionsSit up straight on your chair; Do not put much food in your mouth at a time; Drink only when there is no food in your mouth; Try not to get into your mouth anything that will have to be taken out; Do not make any nose when you eat; Do not clean your teeth at the table or anywhere in public, either with your finger or a tooth pick(牙签）, not even with you tongue.6. In School1)Greeting the TeacherIf you are in a very large class, it may not be necessary to greet the teacher on arriving, but it is always quite proper if you happen to catch the teachers eye as you enter.2) Coming LateIt is bad manners to come late to class. If you are unavoidably late an apology should be made to the teacher either at the time or after class.3) Talking in ClassIt if bad manners in the schoolroom, as elsewhere, to talk while anyone else is taking.7. In Public Places1) Traffic LawsThe coming of the motor car made definite traffic law and regulations a practical necessity. To obey these law is not so much a matter of curtsey(礼貌） as a moral obligation（义务）.2) For People WalkingPeople walking should keep to the sidewalks and should keep to the right of the sidewalk.3) The TheaterThe theater proper is more formal than the movies. At the theater best clothes are in order; evening clothes are often worn.4) The MoviesThe movies are more informal. Any kind of respectable clothes may be worn, and small confection(糖果） may be eaten quietly as long as there are no objectionable noses to annoy ones neighbors.5) In ChurchIt is usual for anyone attending church to take some money along for the offering, as it is a regular part of every church service and is used for the work of the church. Good clothes, but never evening clothes, are worn to a church service.8. Special Occasions1) BirthdayBirthday in the West, as in China, are considered occasions for congratulations and sometimes for gifts from near friends.2)The WeddingIf one receives an announcement of a wedding after it is over, a note of congratulation may be sent, but a gift is not necessary.3) The FuneralFunerals, of course, are always sand, but the tendency in Western countries is against making any show of ones feelings at the funeral. The idea behind this is that the person dead would wish this last meeting of his friends in his honor and remembrance to be full of tender, happy recollections of his life.9. With Strangers and Friends1) Lending and borrowing are more matters of principle in the West than in the East. Things borrowed in the West are definitely expected to be returned, whether it is fifty dollars or merely a friends pencil.2) Dont Be CuriousIt is impolite to be curious about the private affairs of others, such as age, salary, religion and marriage.3) Thanks for GiftsWhen some one gives you a present, it is very impolite to neglect thank him for it.4) One Hand OnlyIn china we use two hands when giving something to a person, or when receiving it, if we want to be very polite. In the West this would seem awkward and impolite.10. Personal Habits and Appearance1) People judge you at first by what they see, so particular attention should be paid to your personal appearance.2) Using a HandkerchiefAlways carry a clean handkerchief. Do not use it while it is folded, and do not fold it after you use it.3)SpittingIn the West it is considered very impolite to spit, even upon the street.4) SmokingSmoking is very prevalent(普遍), both by men and by women. If you are a guest in a home where no others are smoking, it is better to refrain(忍住） from smoking, you may say, Would you mind if I smoked?.11. Some Points for Men1) With a LadyAlways allow the lady to precede you in places where one has to go before the other except in the following case: when getting off a street car, train, bus, or out of an automobile; when going up stair; when opening a heavy door. When you are walking along the street with a lady, always walk on the outside.2) At a DanceIf you wish to dance with a certain lady, go to her, bow, and say: May I have the pleasure of a dance?Selected from Western Manners by Earl and Katharine Willmontt and translated by Wan Rongfang西方礼仪为什么打招呼？在欧美国家见面打招呼是很自然的，即使是不认识。打招呼的目的，并不是为了要跟你有进一步的交往，只是一种生活礼仪形式。其实不论任何人，面对有人微笑打招呼，都会受到感染，像是见到阳光心情跟着好起来一样，很自然会打招呼响应。因此，在西方国家旅游的时候，如果迎面而来的人对我们说哈啰，别露出一副莫名其妙的表情，甚至置之不理唷！那可是非常失礼的。怎样打招呼？对方跟你说How do you do ?就是你好的意思，不用按着课本教的说Fine, Thank you. And you?，除非这是你的好朋友，或是你有比较多的时间跟他聊天，不然只要同样回答说How do you do ?就够了。如果怕自己英文不好听，至少微笑点个头。有时候他们会说Hello !，其实相当于我们的嗨，这是同辈或好友之间的应对方式，不适合用在对长辈或地位比较高的人。另外，他们也会问候Good morning，Good afternoon或Good evening，同样问候就可以了。怎样吃饭？中国人吃饭比较随兴，很可能聊到开心处，就大声说笑，或是把餐厅当作自己家一样让小孩子跑来跑去，这在西方国家是相当不得体的喔！尤其如果我们是吃西式餐厅，而不是在中国餐厅，一定要注意餐桌礼节。餐巾应该要铺放在腿上，不是别在领口上的，更不可以拿餐巾来擦桌子或餐具！使用刀叉的时候，倒没有禁忌不可以拿着叉子讲话，因为在外国，放下餐具表示你已经吃完，准备请服务生来收走了。当然啦，如果要比手画脚的时候例外，毕竟拿着刀叉挥舞还是挺不安全的！享用食物的时候安静是基本的礼貌，像是喝汤、嚼食物都不应该出声音，打嗝的声音尤其会惹人白眼，万一打嗝发出了声音，应该对同桌的人说Excuse me表示歉意。千万不要塞得满嘴的食物，慢慢一口一口吃。发表意见时，应该等食物完全吞下去之后再讲话，不可以一边嚼一边讲话。如果有鱼刺或骨头，应该尽量先用刀叉挑出来或切除掉，再放到嘴里面，不适合嚼一嚼之后再用嘴巴吐出来，假如不得已必须要这样做，也最好悄悄地、稍微用餐巾布遮掩一下比较好喔。 零零总总谈了一些基本西方礼仪，其实最基本的还是爸妈平时生活教养的功夫。如果常常提醒孩子遵守礼貌规矩，让孩子懂得规范自己、尊重别人，相信在国外旅游的时候，也能很快就适应不同的礼节了！中国自古就是礼仪之邦，西方的礼仪和我国有许多的相似之处。在当前国际交往频繁的形式下，不论是在国内接待外宾或出国访问旅游，不论是将要留学国外或常驻国外工作都有必要学习一下西方的礼仪。 礼节有两个方面：其一要从内心去关心他人的需要和情感；其二要以一定的行为方式表现出来，由此人们通常可以判断我们家庭教养的状况。礼节的实质就是处处为别人着想，这也就是要实行那条金笺：你想别人怎样对待你，你就该怎样对待别人。所谓考虑他人的要点就是要使自己的衣着和举止尽可能让人喜欢。一看到衣着雅致、彬彬有礼的人，你就会觉得日常生活增添了许多乐趣。相反，看到的是衣着不整，礼节不周的人，你就会有明显的缺少什幺以及不舒服和