新视野大学英语第二册读写教程unit3.ppt

Unit 3: Section A,Marriage Across the Nations,Intensive Study,Marriage Across the Nations 1 Gail and I imagined a quiet wedding. During our two years together we had experienced the usual ups and downs of a couple learning to know, understand, and respect each other. But through it all we had honestly confronted the weaknesses and strengths of each others characters. 2 Our racial and cultural differences enhanced our relationship and taught us a great deal about tolerance, compromise, and being open with each other. Gail sometimes wondered why I and other blacks were so involved with the racial issue, and I was surprised that she seemed to forget the subtler forms of racial hatred in American society.,Intensive Study,3 Gail and I had no illusions about what the future held for us as a married, mixed couple in America. The continual source of our strength was our mutual trust and respect. 4 We wanted to avoid the mistake made by many couples of marrying for the wrong reasons, and only finding out ten, twenty, or thirty years later that they were incompatible, that they hardly took the time to know each other, that they overlooked serious personality conflicts in the expectation that marriage was an automatic way to make everything work out right. That point was emphasized by the fact that Gails parents, after thirty-five years of marriage, were going through a bitter and painful divorce, which had destroyed Gail and for a time had a negative effect on our budding relationship.,Intensive Study,5 When Gail spread the news of our wedding plans to her family she met with some resistance. Her mother, Deborah, all along had been supportive of our relationship, and even joked about when we were going to get married so she could have grandchildren. Instead of congratulations upon hearing our news, Deborah counseled Gail to be really sure she was doing the right thing. 6 “So it was all right for me to date him, but its wrong for me to marry him. Is his color the problem, Mom?” Gail subsequently told me she had asked her mother.,Intensive Study,7 “To start with I must admit that at first I harbored reservations about a mixed marriage, prejudices you might even call them. But when I met Mark I found him a charming and intelligent young guy. Any mother would be proud to have him for a son-in-law. So, color has nothing to do with it. Yes, my friends talk. Some even express shock at what youre doing. But they live in a different world. So you see, Marks color is not the problem. My biggest worry is that you may be marrying Mark for the same wrong reasons that I married your father. When we met I saw him as my beloved, intelligent, charming, and caring. It was all so new, all so exciting, and we both thought, on the surface at least, that ours was an ideal marriage with every indication that it would last forever. I realized only later that I didnt know my beloved, your father, very well when we married.,Intensive Study,8 “But Mark and I have been together more than two years,” Gail railed. “Weve been through so much together. Weve seen each other at our worst many times. Im sure that time will only confirm what we feel deeply about each other.” 9 “You may be right. But I still think that waiting wont hurt. Youre only twenty-five.” 10 Gails father, David, whom I had not yet met personally, approached our decision with a father-knows-best attitude. He basically asked the same questions as Gails mother: “Why the haste? Who is this Mark? Whats his citizenship status?” And when he learned of my problems with the Citizenship department, he immediately suspected that I was marrying his daughter in order to remain in the United States.,Intensive Study,11 “But Dad, thats harsh,” Gail said. 12 “Then why the rush? Buy time, buy time,” he remarked repeatedly. 13 “Mark has had problems with citizenship before and has always taken care of them himself,” Gail defended. “In fact, he made it very clear when we were discussing marriage that if I had any doubts about anything, I should not hesitate to cancel our plans.” 14 Her father proceeded to quoted statistics showing that mixed couples had higher divorce rates than couples of the same race and gave examples of mixed couples he had counseled who were having marital difficulties.,Intensive Study,15 “Have you thought about the hardships your children would go through?” he asked. 16 “Dad, are you a racist?” 17 “No, of course not. But you have to be realistic.” 18 “Maybe our children will have some problems, but whose children dont? But one thing theyll always have: our love and devotion.” 19 “Thats idealistic. People can be very cruel toward children from mixed marriages.” 20 “Dad, well worry about that when the time comes. If we had to resolve all doubt before we acted, very little would ever get done.” 21 “Remember, its never too late to change your mind.”,ups and downs a mix of good experiences and bad experiences e.g. Life is full of ups and downs. He has seen the ups and downs in the history of relations between the two countries.,compromise 1. An agreement that is achieved after everyone involved accepts less than what they wanted at first. n. After several hours of discussion, they managed to reach a compromise. Both sides are determined to get what they want, and there seems to be no possibility of compromise. 2. Reach an agreement by making a compromise We finally compromised on a price. The government has compromised with other party leaders over the date of the next general election.,be/get involved with give a lot of time, effort, or attention to e.g. He was involved with working out a plan.,Translate: 我不知道他为什么如此关心这个问题。,I wonder why he is so involved in this.,subtle slight, not easy to notice, understand or explain e.g. There are subtle differences in meaning between these two words. Prejudice can take subtler forms than this.,illusion a false/unrealistic idea, belief or impression e.g. I have no illusions about his ability; he is just no good. The sun appears to go round the earth, but that is only an illusion. be under an illusion (usu. followed by that clause) We are all under the illusion that the country is doing well economically, but in fact it is in serious difficulty.,mutual shared by two or more Their work together was based on mutual respect, trust and understanding. Linda and Phil met through a mutual friend. I like her, and I hope the feeling is mutual.,compatible 1. (of people, ideas, differences, etc.) suitable; able to exist together I have never seen two people who were more compatible. 2. (of equipment) able to be used together I would like to buy a printer that is compatible with my computer. incompatible not able to live or work together After a week together on vacation it was clear that they were incompatible. Water is incompatible with fire.,overlook 1. Fail to notice or realize how important sth is You have overlooked several of the mistakes in this work. 2. Pretend not to notice, forgive Well overlook your bad behavior this time, but dont do it again. She overlooked his offensiveness and tried to pretend nothing had happened. 3. Have or give a view from above Her bedroom has large windows overlooking a lake.,work out Have as a result, turn out (intransitive) How the situation will eventually work out only time can tell. 2. Find by reasoning or figuring (transitive) Have you worked out the answer? The police couldnt work out how the thieves had entered the building.,go through - experience We went through difficulties while working on this project. The country has gone through too many wars.,all along throughout a period of time, all the time I suspected all along that she was lying. I knew the truth all along.,counsel advise She counseled them not to accept this explanation. They counseled patience. 2. Give advice and support to The school is now providing a service to counsel students with job hunting.,subsequently - afterwards He escaped from prison but was subsequently recaptured. The old school was sold and subsequently turned into a private house.,harbor have in mind over a long period of time He harbors a secret hatred against his father. For years he harbored a wish to become a painter.,reservation 1. A feeling of doubt about whether sth is good or right I have some reservations about his story. The shopkeeper had a few reservations about hiring a former convict. 2. An order of a room, seat, etc. in advance They made a reservation for lunch at a famous restaurant.,prejudice 1. unreasonable dislike or like A judge must be free from prejudices. 2. v. She is prejudiced against French wine because she is Italian. Your bad spelling may prejudice your chances of getting the job.,In this sentence, “every” means “as much as possible, all, entire”, etc. eg. There is every chance that she will succeed. There is every reason to believe that he is telling the truth. The airline takes every possible measure to ensure the safety of its passengers.,confirm Show that sth is definitely true The recent airplane crash confirms my belief that stronger safety rules are needed. The announcements confirm that the election would take place on June 20th. 2. Make certain, often by phone or writing This morning a note arrive from the conference asking us to confirm when we would be arriving. Id like to confirm a reservation for a double room on the first of July.,approach begin to consider or deal with There are several ways of approaching this problem. The bank approached the issue in a practical way.,Whats his citizenship status? Which country is he lawfully accepted as belonging to?,harsh 1. Cruel, severe, lack of sympathy His family wouldnt survive the harsh winter. 2. Unpleasantly rough or sharp, esp. to the senses Th