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1、Good is good, but better carries it.精益求精，善益求善。ChapterOneTheViewofLove毕业ChapterOneTheViewofLove毕业毕业论文IntroductionWhen talking about the famous sitcoms, many people will refer to “Friends” and “My Own Swordsman”. This is not hard to understand because both of them are very outstanding and successful s

2、itcoms in America and China. Although the two sitcoms are very different in many aspects such as plot and release date, they have both perfectly mirrored the features of their ages and countries. Just because of this, we could clearly see both of the two countries cultural values via them and then f

3、eel the cultural differences between China and America.“Friends” is an American sitcom screenplay by David Crane and Marta Kauffman which aired on NBC from Sep.22, 1994 to May 6, 2004. In total, it has 10 seasons, 236 episodes. The sitcom mainly tells about the interesting and humorous stories of si

4、x young friends (Ross, Rachel, Chandler, Monica, Joey and Phoebe) in an apartment of Manhattan, New York City. The life of the six friends is a vivid reflection of the life of American young people, so it attracts many audiences. Whats more, depending on its humorous words and ups and downs of the p

5、lot, “Friends” became famous very quickly. “My Own Swordsman” is a Chinese costume piece screenplay by Ning Caishen which was released in the year 2006. In total, it has 80 episodes. The sitcom mainly tells about the interesting and humorous stories of six men with character (Bai Zhantang, Tong Xian

6、gyu, Lv Xiucai, Guo Furong, Li Dazui and Zhu Wushuang) in a tavern called “Tong Fu Tavern”. The sitcom quickly became famous because of its nonsense and humorous plots. The audience rating of “My Own Swordsman” had once reached 7%. It is not hard to tell how popular “My Own Swordsman” is in that mom

7、ent.Cultural difference is a complicated topic, it refers to many aspects. With the development of globalization, cultural shock becomes a common phenomenon, especially for the young man. The two sitcoms “Friends” and “My Own Swordsman” mainly tell about the stories of the youth, so the cultural dif

8、ferences they reflect are mainly about the issues what the young people care. In this paper, the author chose to analyze the cultural differences between China and America in the following four aspects: the view of affection, the view of love, the view of friendship and the view of money. The four a

9、spects are those the youth care the most. The author hopes to let people know the differences and then make suggestions for them on how to learn American and Chinese culture.Chapter One The View of LoveThis part discusses the different views of love between China and America. With the comparison of

10、the two sitcoms “Friends” and “My Own Swordsman”, the author will analyze this question in the following four ways: the view of choose lover, the wedding, the conjugal relationship and the married life. And then guide people to choose the right view of love.1.1 The Pandect The different views of lov

11、e between China and America typically reflect the different cultural traits of Chinese and American people. That is, the Chinese people are always meaning and conservative while the American people are outgoing and fancy free. China has a history of over 5000 years, the golden mean of the Confusion

12、school has a profound influence on the Chinese people, of course, it also determines the view of love. This makes the Chinese people meaning and conservative, they would like to hidden their feelings rather than express them. On the contrary, America is a newly-emerging nation, it has a history of o

13、nly 300 years. The American culture is based on the ocean culture of the Ancient Greece tradition. The logical thinking and analytical thinking of Aristotle has a great influence on their thinking mode. Compared with the Chinese golden mean thought, the American people are more romantic and freedom.

14、 What they care about is the personality liberation. On the view of love, the American people are more open. They would like to do anything they want for their love, no matter how amazing it seems to be. We will dwell on this in the following sections.1.2 The View of Choose Lover1.2.1 Different stan

15、dards of spouse selection in China and AmericaChina and America have different standards of spouse selection. In China, when talking about the standard of spouse selection, we will always hear the following questions: “whats your parents opinion?”, “Are you matched for marriage?” “Dose he have house

16、s and cars?” “Is he a Gaofushuai?” While in America, these questions rarely mentioned. In “Friends”, the six protagonists all have changed many boyfriends or girlfriends. When talking about their boyfriends or girlfriends, we often hear about these descriptive words: funny, sweet, smart, pretty, han

17、dsome, especially the first two words. Therefore, we could say that the standard of spouse selection in America is very simple, people would choose to go together only if they have common interests and love each other. But in China, the situation becomes very complicated. When thinking about marriag

18、e, the same interests and love are not the decisive factors. What really matters are your parents attitude and your family background. Based on historical records, Zhaocheng emperor of Wei dynasty has a descendant who was dismissed from his post just because he married a common people.(Textual Resea

19、rch of Law of Nine Dynasty). So we could see that be matched for marriage is very important in China. The next, lets take “Friends” and “My Own Swordsman” for examples.1.2.2 Take “Friends” and “My Own Swordsman” for examplesIn “My Own Swordsman”, we could see the influence of parents attitude and fa

20、mily background on the marriage. In the first set, Tong Xiangyu was married to a man called Mr.Mo who she even didnt know. This is the so-called arranged marriage. Unfortunately, her husband died a few days after marriage. In the old tradition, widow cant remarry so she even had no right to love. In

21、 the 25set and 67set, Tong Xiangyus father and Guo Furongs father came to Tongfu Tavern to intervene their daughters marriage. The six protagonists of course tried their best to let the two father satisfied because they are the crucial factor of their daughters marriage. Just because of this, we cou

22、ld make a conclusion that love each other is absolutely a key factor, but if the parents say no, the love will become worthless no matter how deep it is. In “Friends”, we could also see the standard of spouse selection in America via some specific examples. For those who have watched the sitcoms, I

23、believe that they must have a deep impression on the May-December relationship between Monica and Richard. Although their ages are not match, they still chose to marry because they love each other. It is just so simple. While the life after marriage was not very happy because they had a lot of disag

24、reements, especially on the issue whether they should have a child or not. Finally, they chose to divorce. Not like most Chinese families, most Americans prefer to choose to divorce rather than still live together reluctantly. This is their standard of spouse selection. 1.3 The Wedding 1.3.1 The wed

25、ding ceremonyWhen talking about the Chinese wedding, people will always be impressed by its grand spectacle. In “My Own Swordsman”, there is only one wedding, but this only one wedding concluded all the factors of a typical Chinese wedding ceremony. The red and grand scene, the numerous guests, the

26、grand banquet, the loud firecrackers, everything needed is ready. The atmosphere of the ceremony is lively and jazzy. Compared with the lively Chinese wedding ceremony, the American wedding ceremony seems to be more peaceful and solemn. Not too many people gathered in the church to bless the new cou

27、ples. The ceremony is not grand, but warm and a little poetic. “Friends” described 5 wedding ceremonies, all of them are warm and solemn, making the audience feel comfortable. Especially Ross and Rachels wedding. Although there was no audience, the mood is very warm. We could deeply feel the purity

28、of love. Frankly speaking, this differences itself is very interesting. The conservative Chinese people would like to hold a grand and lively wedding ceremony. They act out of normal behavior, showing us the other side of their personality. On the contrary, the jazzy Americans choose to hold a peace

29、ful and quiet wedding ceremony, they also show the other side of their personality. We could find many reasons to explain the odd phenomenon, such as the religious belief, the geographic differences. But I think this phenomenon itself has become a culture, the wedding culture. 1.3.2 The wedding feeT

30、here is another interesting difference between Chinese and American wedding, that is the wedding fee. First, the guests attending the wedding ceremony in China must prepare a red packet (money inside, at least 100yuan) for the new couples. While in America, the guests usually bring a common gift for

31、 the wedding ceremony. Second, in China, the couple usually pay for the wedding fee together. Because of the red packets, the real fee they need to pay is not a very large number. While in America, the wedding fee is totally paid by the wife. This probably will never happen in China, but in America,

32、 this is a common sense. 1.4 The Conjugal Relationship1.4.1 The property relationsIn China, the property is in charge of one person, usually the one is the wife. In “My Own Swordsman”, Tong Xiangyu and Gu Furong took charge of the money. This reflects two phenomenon. The first, although the property

33、 is in charge by one person, the property belongs to both of them. It seems to be unequal, but it perfectly explains their firm conjugal relationship. The property ties the two couples together. The second, the females are more frugal and careful than those careless men. They are good at taking char

34、ge of the money. In America, people always take charge of their money. Whats more, they always buy their own things with their own money. A fragment in “Friends” wonderfully explains this phenomenon. One day, Chandler bought a hamburger and a cup of coca-cola after refuel and then went back into the

35、 car. Monica was in his car at that time, but he even didnt ask if she want some to eat. I couldnt understand his behavior at that moment, but gradually I found out that they are economic independent. One would not buy things forwardly for the other. If they need something, they would buy it by them

36、selves.1.4.2 The transparency of the coupleIn China, there is little transparency between the two couples. Except for the work houses, the couples almost stay together for the whole day. While in America, the couples have their each leisure time. Besides, they respect the others privacy very much. I

37、n America, the wife will never check their husbands cell phones and pockets. This is impossible in China.In fact, the conjugal relationship can perfectly reflects a countrys cultural connotation. Generally speaking, the Chinese couples are like a true love knot weaved by a whole red gimp. The true l

38、ove knot is not only firm and beautiful but also integrity. On the other hand, the American couples are like two encountered creeks. The two creeks are not only casual but also confluent. 1.5 The Married Life1.5.1 The affection after marriageIn China, there is an old saying “marriage is the tomb of

39、love”. But in America, this saying is not fit. “The lifestyle of Chinese people is under the demands of the public and other people, love and sex is a kind of lifestyle so it must be limited. For an American, he could ignore anything when he fell in love, while for an Chinese people, he must care ab

40、out many things not only love.”(XuHuoguangliang Chinese and American People). 1.5.2 Attitudes towards divorceThe Chinese people live by their responsibilities and family relations after marriage, while the American live by their feelings whenever. In their concept, the marriage without love is an ev

41、il marriage. So they would like to divorce when they no longer love each other. But in China, we have a lot of things cant leave besides love, such as the children, the public opinion and so on. Lets take “Friends” and “My Own Swordsman” for examples. In “Friends”, Ross had divorced for three times.

42、 In their mind, they would divorce if they no longer feel happy. They would still be friends after divorce. Ross and Rachel got divorced the second day after they got married. Although their marriage itself is a farce, this thing reflects American peoples attitude towards divorce. There is an old sa

43、ying goes “The wife who shared her husbands hard lot must never be cast aside”. This reflects Chinese peoples attitude towards divorce. When the couple quarreled with each other, they will always think about their past. The Chinese people are affectionate, they would like to live in the sorrow rathe

44、r than kick down the ladder. In “My Own Swordsman”, Tong Xiangyu would like to bear rather than complain about her husband. After her husband died, she still took care of his younger sister Mo Xiaobei. So we could see that the Chinese people are affectionate and hate divorce.1.5.3 The sexual lifeIn

45、China, people rarely talk about this topic. Actually, sexual life is a very important part in the conjugal relationship. In America, people see sex as daily routines. We could see from “Friends” that the American people never regard sex as a taboo. In China, many women wouldnt like to talk about thi

46、s question. After marriage, they still feel very shy when making love with her husband. This reflection restrained the orgasm and then influenced the sexual life of the couples. Many Chinese male complain that their wife behaved like a wood when making love. In America, there is a wired phenomenon t

47、hat a woman cant leave a man just because this man can make her orgasm. When the couples quarreled with each other, the man will always say “Wouldnt you want to make love?” At this time, the women will stop complain and hug her husband. Chapter Two The View of AffectionIn this chapter, I will discus

48、s the different views of affection in China and America. According to the comparison of the two sitcoms “Friends” and “My Own Swordsman”, I will analyze the differences of the view of affection in the following three ways: the means of expression, the parents-children relationship, the relationship

49、between siblings. 2.1 The Means of Expression2.1.1 Words >deeds In expressing our love to our parents, the American people are typically those who talk the talk better than they walk to walk. We could often see someone kiss their parents or say “I love you” to them in “Friends”, this is their way

50、 to show their love towards their parents. It is like routines. Compared with their words, their deeds seem to be inferior. The American people like to be independent, they rarely contact with their relatives except for some important anniversaries and festivals such as the Christmas and the birthda

51、y party. The parents also behave like their children. They just take good care of their children when they are very young. When they grow up, the parents will not interfere their personal life. The same thing is happened the siblings. The American people like to be independent, maybe this means of e

52、xpression of love is what they really needed and that is the true love.2.1.2 Deeds>wordsChinese will not say “I love you” or kiss their parents when they want to express their love to their parents. If they do so, their parents may think that their children are crazy and then take them to hospita

53、l. The Chinese people are ingoing, they are not good at expressing their love to their relatives like the American people. But our Chinese people are affectionate, we would like to express our love to our relatives with practical action. Help your parents do some cooking, washing, cleaning, give you

54、r parents a surprise, massage for them, these are all subtle deeds, but the love they carried is priceless. In China, there is a famous statement which says that childrens success is the great filial to their parents. So many Chinese people study hard to show their love to their parents, While the p

55、arents in China express their love to their children in a strange way. They arrange their life, do anything they can to help them, pamper them. We can understand the mood of the parents but their love is a burden to the children. We could see that very few children could grew up as their parents arr

56、anged because what the parents want may be not what their children really want.The siblings in China express their love in another different way. They are more like the American parents to their children. It is said that children who have siblings feel happier than the only child. This may reflects

57、that the siblings in China express their love in a comparative right way. 2.2 The Parents-children Relationship2.2.1 The relationship in ChinaThe parents-children relationship plays an important part in ancient China. In ancient times, the rulers make family the direct rule unit. The ancient China i

58、s a family-centered country, every family has its own family discipline. “The children should not stand up to the patriarch.”(Showed Home Instruments) We could see from “My Own Swordsman” that Tong Xiangyu has a strict family discipline to Mo Xiaobei. This seemed to be dehumanization. In modern times, the social estate system no longer exists. The outstanding Chinese Civilization give us a good tradition, that is respect the old and cherish the young. And in modern society, the parents-children relationship is becoming more and more equal. In some families, the state of the children