BBC英语六分钟-每天坚持口语dating apps-How our brains react

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transcriptDanHelloandwelcometo6MinuteEnglish.I'mDan.RobAndhello,I'mRob.DanIn

today's

programme

we're

going

to

be

looking

at

what

our

brains

are

doing

when

we

are

using

dating

apps.

Now,

Rob,

have

you

ever

used

a

dating

app?RobNoway,Iwouldneveruseone.DanHmm,soRob,canyouexplain,whentalkingaboutdatingapps,whatwemeanby

swipeleftand

swipe

right?RobAh,yes.Thesearenotnewwordsbuttechnologyhasgiventhemnewmeaning.

Toswipeisthemovementofyourfingeronasmartphonetochangethescreenyou'relookingat.Soimagineturningthepageinabook,well,onaphone,you

swipe.Insomedatingapps,theyshowyoupicturesofpeopleyoumightfindattractive.Ifyoudolikethem,you

swiperight.Ifyoudon'tlikethem,you

swipe

left.DanWe

will

dig

deeper

into

this

topic

shortly,

but

first,

a

question.

In

the

UK,

approximately

how

many

marriages

start

with

the

couple

meeting

online?

Is

it:a)

Oneinthree

b)

Oneinfour

c)

OneinfiveWhat

do

you

think?RobWell,allofthoseseemquitehightome,soI'mgoingtoguessinthemiddle,oneinfour.DanWell,

we'll

find

out

if

you're

right

later

in

the

programme.

Now,

Alice

Gray

is

a

science

communicator

and

blogger.

Recently

she

was

a

guest

on

BBC

Radio

4's

Woman's

Hour

programme

and

she

was

asked

about

what

goes

on

in

our

brains

when

we

use

dating

apps

compared

to

when

we

meet

people

in

real

life.

What

difference

does

she

say

there

is?AliceGrayIt'sveryeasytothinkthatwiththese

instantaneous

swipe

left,

swipe

right,thattheprocessinourbrainofhowwepickoutasuitablematewouldbeverydifferent,whenactuallyit'sreallysimilartohowwedoitinperson.RobSoshesaysthatwhatgoesoninourbrainsisactuallyverysimilar.Onlinewemakedecisionsveryquicklyaboutwhowelike.Thesedecisionsarealmostimmediate-sheusedtheadjective

instantaneous

forthis.Sowemakethese

instantaneous

decisionsthenchooseto

swipe

leftor

swipe

right.Inreallife,wedothesamething.Weknowalmostimmediatelywhenweseesomeoneifwefindthemattractiveornot.DanAlthoughofcourseindigitaldating,oneyou've

swiped

leftyouwillneverseethatpersonagainandyouwon'thavethechancetomeet.Intherealworldyoucouldmeetsomeoneyoudon'tfindattractive

instantaneously

andthengettoknowthemandfindthatyoudoquitelikethem.RobYes,thatistrue,butthenpossiblytheywon'tlikeyou.Andthenyouhavetodealwith

rejection.

Rejection

iswhensomeonedoesn'tfindyouattractiveandtheydon'twanttospendtimewithyouorgettoknowyou.DanSowhat'sthedifferenceinourbrainsbetweenonline

rejection

andreallife

rejection?

Here's

Alice

Gray

again.AliceGrayWeseethatalotofthepatternsassociatedwith

rejection

inreallifeand

rejection

ondatingappsaresimilar,justtheexposuretotherateoftheamountof

rejection

yougetondatingappsisalothigherthantheonesinreallife.

Soinreallifeyou'llhavetimeto,sortof,computetherejection,

getoverit

alittlebit,and

dustyourselfoff

andgetonwithit.Whereastherateofrejectionondatingappsissohighit'softenhard

tocopewith

onecominginafteranother.RobSo,shesaysthatourbrain'sresponsetoreallifeandonline

rejection

isquitesimilar,butinthedigitalworldyoucanberejectedmanymoretimes.DanInreallifeyouhaveabitmoretimetorecoverfromtherejection,to

getoverit,asshesays.Youcan

dustyourselfoff

whichisawayofsayingyouthinkpositivelytomakeyourselffeelbetter-imaginefallingoverontheground,whenyougetup,youmightbecoveredindustanddirt,youneedto

dustyourselfoff

tomakeyourselfreadyagain,beforeyoucarryon.RobIntheonlineworldthough,youdon'thavethattime.Onlinedatingappscanleadtomanyrejectionsandpsychologicallythatcanbedifficulttomanage.Anotherwayofsaying'difficulttomanage'isdifficultto

cope

with.DanWell,

we

don't

want

you

to

reject

us,

so

time

now

to

give

you

the

answer

to

that

quiz

question

before

a

recap

of

today's

vocabulary.

I

asked:

in

the

UK,

approximately

how

many

marriages

start

with

the

couple

meeting

online?

Is

it:a)

Oneinthree

b)

Oneinfour

c)

OneinfiveRob

Hmmm,

so

I

said

b)

one

in

four

–

25%.

Was

I

right?DanSorry,

Rob,

the

answer

is

a),

one

in

three.

Does

that

surprise

you?RobYes,itdoes,Ididn'tthinkitwouldbethathigh.DanIt's

the

sign

of

the

times,

Rob.

Digital

world

–

digital

dating!

Let's

have

a

look

at

that

vocabulary.RobOK,well,westartedwiththeverb

toswipe.Themovementofourfingeronsmartphoneortabletscreentoindicatewhetherwelikesomeoneornot.

Swipe

rightforlike,

swipe

leftifyoudon'tlike.DanOurdecisionsonwhetherwefindsomeoneattractiveornotareoften

instantaneous.Thisadjectivemeansimmediate,atonce.RobRejection

iswhenyouletsomeoneknowthatyouarenotinterestedinthem,youdon'twanttoberomanticallyinvolvedwiththem.DanIfyouare

rejected

youmightneedsometimetofeelbetter,andforthisyoucanusethephrasalverb

getover.Itcantakesometimeto

getover

a

rejection.RobYeah,

I

know!

Being

positive

and

optimistic

after

a

rejection

canbedescribedas

dustingyourselfoff.But,havingmany

rejections

canbedifficult

tocopewith,whichmeansitcanbedifficulttomanage,difficulttokeeppositive.DanWell,wehopeyoudon't

swipe

leftonthisprogrammeandyouwilljoinusagainnexttimeRememberyoucanfindusonInstagram,Facebook,Twitter,YouTubeandofcourseourwebsite.RobAnddon'tforgetournewBBCLearningEnglishapp.DanOhgoodidea.Seeyousoon.Bye.RobBye

bye!toswipe

(here)movingtheimagesonasmartphoneortabletup,down,leftorright,usingourfingerinstantaneous

immediate,atonce.rejection

notgivingsomeonetheloveandattentiontheywouldlikegetoverfeelbetterafterabadexperiencedustingyourselfoff

beingpositiveandoptimisticafterarejectionorabadexperiencetocopewith

tomanage/dealwith(adifficultsituation)双语版TranscriptHelloandwelcometo6MinuteEnglish.I’mDan.

大家好，欢迎来到六分钟英语。我是丹。

Andhello,I’mRob.

大家好，我是罗伯。

Intoday’sprogrammewe’regoingtobelookingatwhatourbrainsaredoingwhenweareusingdatingapps.Now,Rob,haveyoueverusedadatingapp?

在今天的节目里，我们将要研究当我们使用约会软件时，大脑是如何做出反应的。罗伯，你用过约会软件吗？

Noway,Iwouldneveruseone.

不可能，我从未使用过。

Hmm,soRob,canyouexplain,whentalkingaboutdatingapps,whatwemeanbyswipeleftandswiperight?

额。所以罗伯，你能解释一下当说到约会软件时，向左滑和向右滑是指什么吗？

Ah,yes.Thesearenotnewwordsbuttechnologyhasgiventhemnewmeaning.Toswipe’isthemovementofyourfingeronasmartphonetochangethescreenyou’relookingat.Soimagineturningthepageinabook,well,onaphone,youswipe.Insomedatingapps,theyshowyoupicturesofpeopleyoumightfindattractive.Ifyoudolikethem,youswiperight.Ifyoudon’tlikethem,youswipeleft.

啊，当然。这些不是新单词，但是科技赋予了它们新的含义。“Toswipe”是为了变换你所浏览的手机界面，你的手指在智能机上的动作。所以想象一下给书翻页，在手机上就是手指滑动。在一些约会软件里，它们会向你显示你或许觉得吸引人的照片。如果你真的喜欢他们，就向右滑。不喜欢就向左滑。

Wewilldigdeeperintothistopicshortly,butfirst,aquestion.IntheUK,approximatelyhowmanymarriagesstartwiththecouplemeetingonline?Isit:a)

Oneinthreeb)

Oneinfourorc)

Oneinfive?Whatdoyouthink?

我们马上要更深入地探究这个话题，但是首先是测试问题。在英国，大约有多少婚姻是从网上见面的情侣开始的？是a)三分之一b)

四分之一还是c)五分之一？你觉得呢？

Well,allofthoseseemquitehightome,soI’mgoingtoguessinthemiddle,oneinfour.

好吧，对我来说那些看起来都非常高，所以我猜中间的，四分之一。

Well,we’llfindoutifyou’rerightlaterintheprogramme.Now,AliceGrayisasciencecommunicatorandblogger.RecentlyshewasaguestonBBCRadio4’sWoman’sHourprogramme.Andshewasaskedaboutwhatgoesoninourbrainswhenweusedatingappscomparedtowhenwemeetpeopleinreallife.Whatdifferencedoesshesaythereis?

好的，我们稍后将在节目中揭晓你是否正确。爱丽丝?格雷既是一名科学传播者，又是一名博主。最近她做客BBC节目4频道的《女性时间》。并被问到和现实生活中的相遇比较，当我们使用约会软件时，大脑会做出什么反应。她说有什么不同？

It’sveryeasytothinkthatwiththeseinstantaneousswipeleft,swiperight,thattheprocessinourbrainofhowwepickoutasuitablematewouldbeverydifferent,whenactuallyit’sreallysimilartohowwedoitinperson.

大家很容易认为我们的大脑通过这种即时性的左滑，右滑来挑选适合伴侣的过程是非常不一样的，而实际上它真的和我们当面所做出的反应非常相似。

Soshesaysthatwhatgoesoninourbrainsisactuallyverysimilar.Onlinewemakedecisionsveryquicklyaboutwhowelike.Thesedecisionsarealmostimmediate.Sheusedtheadjective-instantaneousforthis.Sowemaketheseinstantaneousdecisionsthenchoosetoswipeleftorswiperight.Inreallife,wedothesamething.Weknowalmostimmediatelywhenweseesomeoneifwefindthemattractiveornot.

所以她说我们大脑做出的反应事实上非常相似。在网上我们很快选择谁是我们所喜欢的。这些决定几乎是瞬时的。她用形容词“instantaneous”来表示这个意思。所以我们做出这些即时性决定，然后选择向左滑或者向右滑。在现实生活中，我们做同样的事情。当我们看到某人时，我们几乎瞬间就知道他们是否吸引我们。

Althoughofcourseindigitaldating,oneyou’veswipedleftyouwillneverseethatpersonagainandyouwon’thavethechancetomeet.Intherealworldyoucouldmeetsomeoneyoudon’tfindattractiveinstantaneouslyandthengettoknowthemandfindthatyoudoquitelikethem.

当然尽管在数字化约会软件上，你将永远不会再次看到你向左滑的人，而且你不会有机会遇到他们。在现实生活中，你可能会遇见一个没有立刻就吸引到你的人，但了解之后，你就会发现你真的相当喜欢他们。

Yes,thisistrue.Butthenpossiblytheywon’tlikeyou.Andthenyouhavetodealwithrejection.Rejectioniswhensomeonedoesn’tfindyouattractiveandtheydon’twanttospendtimewithyouorgettoknowyou.

是的，是那样的。但是也可能他们不会喜欢你。然后你就不得不被拒绝。拒绝是说当某个人发现你并不吸引他，他们不想要浪费时间和你在一起或者去了解你。

Sowhat’sthedifferenceinourbrainsbetweenonlinerejectionandrealliferejection?Here’sAliceGrayagain.

所以网上拒绝和现实生活中拒绝，我们的大脑有什么不同的地方？这是爱丽丝?格雷再次谈到的。

Weseethatalotofthepatternsassociatedwithrejectioninreallifeandrejectionondatingappsaresimilar,justtheexposuretotherateoftheamountofrejectionyougetondatingappsisalothigherthantheonesinreallife.

Soinreallifeyou’llhavetimeto,sortof,computetherejection,getoveritalittlebit,anddustyourselfoffandgetonwithit.Whereastherateofrejectionondatingappsissohighit’softenhardtocopewithonecominginafteranother.

我们看到现实生活中拒绝和在约会软件上拒绝有许多模式是相似的，只是你在约会软件上被拒绝的比率要远高于在现实生活中。所以在现实生活中，你会有些时间处理自己的被拒，花一些时间恢复，重振旗鼓，重新开始。而在约会软件上被拒绝的比率如此之高，人们经常很难处理一个接着一个的被拒。

So,shesaysthatourbrain’sresponsetoreallifeandonlinerejectionisquitesimilar.Butinthedigitalworldyoucanberejectedmanymoretimes.

所以，她说我们的大脑对现实生活中的拒绝以及网上的拒绝是十分相似的。但是在数字化约会中，你被拒绝的次数会更多。

Inreallifeyouhaveabitmoretimetorecoverfromtherejection,togetoverit,asshesays.Youcandustyourselfoffwhichisawayofsayingyouthinkpositivelytomakeyourselffeelbetter.Imaginefallingoverontheground,whenyougetup,youmightbecoveredindustanddirt,youneedtodustyourselfofftomakeyourselfreadyagain,beforeyoucarryon.

在现实生活中，你从被拒中恢复的时间要更长些，正如她所说的“togetoverit”。你可以重振旗鼓，那是说你自己积极思考让自己感觉好点的一种方式。想象一下你早上起床掉到地上，你可能会变得灰头土脸，你需要把身上的灰尘掸下去，在重新出发之前做好准备。

Intheonlineworldthough,youdon’thavethattime.Onlinedatingappscanleadtomanyrejectionsandpsychologicallythatcanbedifficulttomanage.Anotherwayofsaying’difficulttomanage’isdifficult’tocopewith’.

然而在网络世界，你没有那个时间。网上约会软件会导致一些被拒，而且从心理上来说很难处理。难处理的另一种说法是很难“tocopewith”。

Well,wedon’twantyoutorejectus,sotimenowtogiveyoutheanswertothatquizquestionbeforearecapoftoday’svocabulary.Iasked:intheUK,approximatelyhowmanymarriagesstartwiththecouplemeetingonline?Isit:a)

Oneinthreeb)

Oneinfourorc)

Oneinfive?

好的，我们不想你拒绝我们，所以在回顾单词之前现在该给出你问题的答案了。我问：在英国有多少婚姻是从网上见面的情侣开始的？是a)三分之一b)四分之一还是c)五分之一？

Hmmm,soIsaidb)oneinfour–25%.WasIright?

额，所以我说是四分之一，25％。对吗？

Sorry,Rob,theanswerisa),oneinthree.Doesthatsurpriseyou?

抱歉，罗伯，答案是三分之一。惊到了吗？

Yes,itdoes,Ididn’tthinkitwouldbethathigh.

是的，它确实吓到我了，我没想到它会那么高。

It’sthesignofthetimes,Rob.Digitalworld,digitaldating!Let’shavealookatthatvocabulary.

它是时代的象征，罗伯。数字化社会，数字化约会！让我们看一下词汇。

OK,well,westartedwiththeverb’toswipe’.Themovementofourfingeronsmartphoneortabletscreentoindicatewhetherwelikesomeoneornot.Swiperightforl