中西方婚姻差异英文论文

PAGEPAGE5ChineseandwesterndifferenceinmarriageAbstract:thisarticleaimsatstudythedifferencebetweenChineseandwesterninmarriage.Chinesemarriagesarebasedonfamilyconditions，whileWesterns'marriagesarebasedonthesamehobby.Theirdifferentsurvivalenvironmentaffectthepeople'charactersandinfluencepeople'sthoughtsoftheirrespectivemarriages.Menandwomenintheeconomyofdifferentstatusdeterminetheirpositionsinthefamily,whichdeterminesthedifferencesintheirmarriage.Socialvalueisthemainstreamofdifferentthoughts,anditindirectlyaffectsthepublic'sviewofmarriage.Religiousbeliefsalsoplayanimportantroleinmarriagecustomsandmarriagesmaintaining.Keywords:ConceptaboutmarriagebetweenWesternandChina;Livingenvironment;ThesocialvalueI.IntroductionMarriageasahumaninstitutionexistsinallmajorcivilizationssincethedawnoftime.TheMysteryofHolyMatrimonydrawsitssacredfoundationfromthecreationofthefirstmanandwoman,whomGodmadeinHisownImageandLikenessandtoldtobefruitfulandmultiply?InOrthodoxtradition,marriageandmonasticismgoeshandinhand,andarebothconsideredholyinitscallingintheserviceofGodandHisPeople.Mostweddingscontainweddingvowsandaproclamationofmarriage,usuallybytheofficiate.Mostweddingsalsoinvolvewearingtraditionalclothes(i.e.,kilts,whitegown,redsari,etc.).Aweddingisoftenfollowedoraccompaniedbyaweddingreception.Otherelementsmayincludemusic,poetry,prayerorscripture.SomeelementsofthetraditionalWesternweddingceremonysymbolizethebride'sdeparturefromherfather’scontrolandentryintoanewfamilywithherhusband.InmodernWesternweddings,thissymbolismislargelyvestigial.Thecommonelementinaweddingistheassumptionofhusbandandwiferolesaswellastherolesofthefutureparents.Theweddingisaspecialmomentthatmarksthebeginningofanewgeneration,anewfamilyandalifetogether.Thismomentisrecognizedwithtraditions,ceremoniesandritualsincludingengagementandweddingceremonies.II.AcomparisonoftheviewofmarriageThementionedmarriage,hasbeendescribed:"totheChinesepeople,marriageismorelikeacommercialactivity,socalledmarriage;andtotheWesternpeople,marriageismorelikeahouse,toturntheworldupsidedowntogether,nothappyisacasualshoottwo."Chinesemarriagefeatures:beforethereformandopeningup,lowquality,highstability,60%marriagewas"patchy";aftersexualconfusionofideas,divorcetideflood,isoflowquality,lowstability.WhileWesternsbelieveinneitherstrictDanOusystem,isnotfullyopenrelationship,butforlove,specialhobbyandmultiplerelationshipsinclusive.Afterinvestigation,Chinesestandardsare:appearance,age,familycondition;andWesternmateconditionsare:respect,trust,interest.Asforfamilyconditions,frommatechoice,Chineseregardmarriageoftenbecometrading,whileWesternsregardingmarriagesasbuyingandselling.InChinamarriage,peoplealwaysisamanmarriesawife,butveryfewpeoplecanspeakawomanmarryhusband.Somarriagemorelikeabusiness,sinceitisabusinessthatcannotdowithoutmoney.Nownomanofthehouseinsomefemaleeyeswasn'ttheman.Insomewomanheart,ahouseworthonehundredprincecharming,marriageisthebestbusinessinvestmentopportunities,TVdrama"DwellingNarrowness"revealstheharshreality.ThefamousthinkerEngelspointedly,marriedformoneyistantamounttolong-termprostitution.MarriageofWesternisthesaleoftwowordsupsidedown,calledthebuyingandselling,menandwomenissellerandbuyer.Womanlookingforaman,firstofallhavetosellthemselves,regardlessofisthesmartbrain,outstandingtalent,abeautifulface,beautifulfigureorcommoninterest,thesearecapital,ifamanbuyingit,thatisthemarriageofthedeposit.InthematerialonthisWesternisattitude,notafraidofmarriagenothing,aslongasacouplecansharesb.'sjoysandsorrows,there'sbread,cars,houseswillalsohavesome.MarriedinChina'svariouscustomsprocedures,payattentiontotheso-called"ostentation"afterthereformandopeningup,moreluxuriouswedding,weddingcompanies,weddingphotostudiolikebambooshootsafteraspringrainlikesmoke.Tosomeextent,Chineseweddingisintheshow,withluxuryoutsideproclaimseeminglystronglove,andtrueloveseemstonolongersacredfirst,marriagehasbecomefamiliar.Videosrelatedtoonlinedatingfromthefashionable;fromextramaritalaffairstokeepamistress,thedivorceratewiththeGDPrising,marriageismoreofaformality.TheWesternromanticweddingissimple,nottoomuchattentiontoformThedifferencesofculturaltraditionsaretherootsofthedifferencesofeducationaltraditions,whichmakethedifferencesofculturaltraditionsexistandstrengthen.OurtraditionalculturehasconsideredtheConfucianismastheleadingplacesinceChun-Chill.Toneinwithpeopleandsociety’srelationshiphasalreadydominatedtheexecutionofeducation.Theeducationaltraditioncreatedbyithasbeencontrollingpeople’sthought.However,thewesterneducationaltraditionspaymoreattentiontopeople’sdevelopmentandability’scultivation.Thischaracteristicalsohasalonghistoricalprocess.SpecialeducationonthehistoryofChineseparents,withthenoblespiritofmoldingpeoplewithoutstandingworkstoinspirepeople,andChinesehistoryandculturedeeplyinfluencedbythetraditionofeveryfamily.IntheUnitedStatesthefamilyandmoraleducation,religionplayedaroleshouldnotbeunderestimated.Inmodernsociety,parentsstillhopethatGodhasalwaysbeencommoniInfact,therearealsomanysimilaritiesbetweenChineseandwesterneducations.Asatradition,thereisnoonebetterorworse.Whichwasborninagivenculturalbackgroundanditweretheproductsofcertaincultures.Onlyintheoriginalsoilthatcanjudgeitsdegreeofsuitability.Theeducationaltraditionsofthesoilmostlyarecomplementedinmanyaspects,andborrowideasformeachothertoperfectcontinually.3.2InfluencesofEconomicalFactorsinMarriageResearchstronglyandconsistentlyindicatesthatmarriageisawealthbuildinginstitution.Marriedpeopletypicallyearnandsavemorethantheirunmarriedcounterparts.Anditisnotjustthejoiningofresourcesandenergiesthatcreatethisfinancialbenefit,butthepermanenceofmarriageitself.3.2.2AffluentEconomyinChinaDifferentfromWestern,Chinesepeople’sthinkingofeconomyismorenegative.Itisatraditionthattheparentswhohasason,needtobuyanewapartmentforthenewcouple.Itisalwaystheman’sdutytobuyahouse,whichisagreatburdentomen,andtomarrypriceofthehouse.Notlongago,peopleinChinausedtosavemoneyforthemarriage.Tosomedegree,peopledon’twanttogetmarriedisalsobecauseofthehighpriceoftheapartment.Rightnowwiththenewpolicyofthegovernment,moreandmoreChinesepeoplefeellikeextentcredittopayforthehouse.Thatalsoencouragesthecoupletostayinmarriageandbothworkoutside.Chinesepeopleusuallydobudgetsaremoreconservative,whiletheUnitedStatesbudgetisrelativelyclose“tothelimit”,andoftenhavethetendencyofconsumptionoverbudget(withtheUnitedStateswillbeasubstantialuseofcreditcardsalsohaverelations).3.3ToleranceLevelsMarriageisnotanendofone’slifebutanewlifejuststarts,isnotadeathofone’ssinglelifebutalife,whichneedtocontinue.Withthosemanyproblemsinmarriage,peoplewouldtakedifferentwaystosolveit.TheholyBiblesays,“Loveispatient,loveiskind.”3.3.1BetterAbilityofToleranceinChineseMarriageChinesewomenarethemostpatiencewomenintheworld.Thethinkingof“Marriagewomanlikesthewaterwhichispulingout.”Theythinkaftermarriagetheyalreadyanindividual;andneedtosolveherproblembyherself.Chinesepeoplehavebettertoleranceisalsobecausetheylovetopintheirdesiretoachieveinthenextgeneration.Havingthishope,tobearanunhappyrelationshipinamarriage,isnotabigdealanymore.3.3.2LessMarriageToleranceinWesternInWestern’scharacter,equalityplaysasignificantrole.TherealizationofbeingequalityisdeepineveryWestern’sheart.ComparedwithChinesepeople,theyhavelessabilitytotoleratethepartner.Theyneveroppresstheiraffection.Theyknowitveryclearthatasanindividual,theyhaverightstogainequality,eveninspiritualormarital.Theythinkmorehighlyoftheromanceinmarriage,theyhavehigherexpectationofthequalityoftheirlife.Theywouldnottobearinmarriage.Divorceismorewidelyaccepted;peoplearelesscommittedtomakingamarriageworkthantheywerefiftyoronehundredyear’sage.IV.ConclusionWhenitcomestoplanningaweddingpeopleoftenhonortraditions,eveniftheydonotfullyunderstandtheiroriginormeaning.Everyculturecherishesitsownweddingtraditionsandsuperstitions.Someofthosearecloselyfollowedevenbythosewhoarenormallynotsuperstitious.Thefigureofabrideinwhiteisanimportantelementoftheritualofmarriage.However,newdesignsofgownareavailablesobridestodaymayfindthemselvesattractedtodesignsthatdonotlooktraditional.Thesymbolismbehindtheweddingdress,however,hasnotchanged.Iftheentirecommunitycanestablishaconcept:Loveisthefoundationofmarriage,andmarriageshouldbemaintainedanddevelopedfriendship,family,responsibilities,obligations,good-hearted,suchastheChinesecultureoftoleranceingoodquality,ifnotlove,wouldalsoenablethemarriagebecomewarmandhappy,sothatothersl