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1、Love and Loving Relationships Nijole V. BenokraitisUnit 4第1页What are the essential factors in choosing your boyfriend/girlfriend?Appearance:Character:Job:Family background:第2页ResponsibleReliableHard-workingHumorousEasy-goingGenerousRomanticSmartConsiderateknowledgeableWhat characters make your dream

2、 man? 第3页A story about love:Once a lady when having a conversation with herlover, asked:Lady : Why do you like me.? Why do you love me?Man : I cant tell the reason. but I really like you.Lady : You cant even tell me the reason. how can you say you like me? How can you say you love me?Man : I really

3、dont know the reason, but I can prove that I love U.Lady : Proof? No! I want you to tell me the reason. My friends boyfriend can tell her why he loves her but not you!Man : Ok. ok! Emmmmm. because you are beautiful, because your voice is sweet, because you are caring, because you are loving, because

4、 you are thoughtful, because of your smile, because of your every movements. 第4页The lady felt very satisfied with the mansanswer.Unfortunately, a few days later, the lady met with an accident and went in comma. The guy then placed a letter by her side, and here isthe content:Darling,Because of your

5、sweet voice that I love you.Nowcan you talk? No! Therefore I cannot love you.Because of your care and concern that I likeyou. 第5页 Now that you cannot show them, therefore I cannot love you. Because of your smile, because of your every movements that I love you. Now can you smile? Now can you move? N

6、o, therefore I cannot love you.If love needs a reason, like now, There is no reason for me to love you any more. Does love need a reason? NO! Therefore, I still love you. Sometimes the best and the most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen, cannot be touched, but can be felt in the heart 第6页

7、What is love?Love is a sensation(感觉） (based on physical and emotional attraction) that magically, spontaneously generates when Mr. or Mrs Right appears.Love is a strong feeling of attachment (喜爱、喜爱）, intimacy and longing between people. Such a feeling makes people unselfish and willing to devote all

8、 that they have.Love is the attachment that results from deeply appreciating anothers goodness.第7页What is love?Common and essential love:family lovefriends, the love between a man and a woman. 第8页Understanding love and marriage Mutual understanding is crucial to the success of marriage. As a saying

9、goes: Marriage is the grave for love.” To a certain extent, it has some point in it, because love in most case is romantic and the lover only sees the bright side of his or her counterpart, but the marriage involves more unpleasant things. During the daily life, you not only discover his or her brig

10、ht side, you may also be reluctant to find sometimes him or her offensive to you. Therefore, mutual understanding is pretty important to maintain a good marriage. Without it, the couples will only complain each other when confronted with conflicts between them. As time goes by and the tension exists

11、, more often than not, the marriage will eventually fall collapsed. So the most and foremost thing that a couple should keep in mind is that the precious love that bind them together. If not for that, how could they get to know and fall in love with each other? 第9页Tips to Love and Happy Marriage1.St

12、art each day with a kiss or a hug2. Wear your wedding ring at all times 3. Accept differences 4. Be gentle 5. Select a song that can be “our song” 6. Do what the other person wants before he or she asks 第10页Tips to Love and Happy Marriage7.Encourage 8. Know his or her needs 9. Compliment twice a day

13、 10. Call during the day 11. Ask for each others opinion 12. Show respect 13. Celebrate birthdays in a big way 第11页Tips to Love and Happy Marriage14.Apologize 15. Forgive 16. Be positive 17. Respond quickly to the other persons request 18. Treat each others friends and relatives with courtesy 第12页Id

14、ioms about love:lovebirds 鸳鸯fall in love 相爱love at first sight一见钟情be head over heels in love 热恋中have a crush on sb迷恋sweep sb. off their feet 另某人一见倾心第13页For better , for worse; For richer , for poorer;In sickness and in health; To love and to cherish;Till death us do part . Marriage Vows 第14页Backgrou

15、nd of the text The text is extracted from Marriages and Families by Nijole V. Benokraitis. The book has been used as a textbook for sociology courses and womens studies in a number of universities in the U.S. It highlights important contemporary changes in society and the family and explores the cho

16、ices that are available to family members, as well as the constraints that many of us do not recognize. It examines the diversity of American families today, using cross-cultural and multicultural comparisons to encourage creative thinking about the many critical issued that confront the family of t

17、he twenty-first century.第15页Text Analysis - Love and Loving RelationshipsPart 1. Paras. 1 - 3Main idea: Love is essential for human survival.Arguments: Para. 1A. The family is usually our earliest and most important source of love and emotional support. B. Babies and children deprived of love have b

18、een known to develop a wide variety of problems.Supports: 第16页Text Analysis - Love and Loving RelationshipsProblems babies and children develop (which sometimes :DepressionHeadachesPhysiological impairments 生理方面残疾Neurotic and psychosomatic difficulties 神经质及心理上压力造成疾病In contrast Infants who are loved

19、and cuddled typically gain more weight, cry less, and smile more. By five years of age, they have been found to have significantly higher IQs and to score higher on language tests.第17页Text Analysis - Love and Loving Relationships Main idea: Love is essential for human survival.Arguments: Paras. 2-3C

20、. Much research shows that the quality of care infants receive affects their life in many ways.Supports: (how, how, how, how.)(So peoples early intimate relationships within their family of origin are critical.) In contrast, D. Love for oneself, or self-love, is also essential for Supports: (Example

21、 of Mae West)第18页Text Analysis - Love and Loving Relationships Main idea: Love is essential for human survival.Arguments: Paras. 2-3 E. Social scientists describe self-love as F. People who dont like themselves may not be able to (self-love as a prerequisite for loving others Fromm 1956)第19页Text Ana

22、lysis - Love and Loving RelationshipsPart 2. What is love? Paras. 4 - 8A. Love is an elusive concept. (argument)Supports:a. When asked what love is, people give a variety of answers. sub-supports: b. Love has many dimensions. c. Love can be romantic, exciting, obsessive, irrational or platonic, calm

23、ing, altruisticd. Love defies a single definition第20页Text Analysis - Love and Loving RelationshipsB. Three elements for a loving relationship: a. b. c.C. Love, especially long-term love, has nothing in common with the images of love or frenzied sex that we get from Hollywood, television, and romance

24、 novels. supports: “stirring-the-oatmeal love”第21页Text Analysis - Love and Loving RelationshipsPart 3. What type of love brings people together? Is there one person out there that one is meant for? Paras. 9 - 12Supports:a. Empirical studies show that cultural norms and values, not fate, bring people

25、 together. Cultural norms and values:b. Criticism and approval teach us what is acceptable romantic behavior and with whom. 第22页Text Analysis - Love and Loving Relationshipsc. Lust and desire are different from love, especially romantic love.d. One should not conclude that desire always culminate in

26、 physical intimacy or that desire is the same as romantic love.e. Healthy loving relationships, whether physical or not (such as love for family members), reflect a balance of caring, intimacy, and commitment.第23页Background information:Mae West (1893 1980)American actress, playwright, screenwriter,

27、and sex symbol.Pen name: Jane MaskFirst starring role in a play: Sex (1926)Other starring roles in : Night After Night (1932) She Done Him Wrong (1933) Im No Angel (1933) Myra Breckinridge (1970) Sextette (1978)第24页Mae West(麦韦斯特)(1893-1980)百老汇著名女演员 麦韦斯特5 岁时便登台演戏演滑稽戏，14岁时开始演杂耍戏并在百老汇舞台上演时事讽刺剧。1926年她创作

28、并演出了自己第一个剧本性，在百老汇引发轰动，但却遭到司法部门禁演，并被拘留5天，原因是该剧内容有伤风化。1927年她又编导了一部描写同性恋戏剧舞会，该剧一上演便大获好评，但却被警告不得在百老汇上演。1928年她创作小钻石终于在百老汇取得好评，依据小钻石改编而成电影地狱之花也在1933年取得奥斯卡最正确影片提名。35年以性感著称麦韦斯特成为当初好莱坞片酬最高女明星。40年代，她曾在欧洲各地舞台上巡回演出她得意之作小钻石多年之久。1954年，六十多岁麦韦斯特开始在夜总会演出，不想早已不是风华正茂她一样取得了巨大成功，可见其魅力之大。1959年她出版了自己自传与德性无关。70年，已年届80她重返影坛

29、参加影片迈拉布雷肯里奇演出与制作。78年，85岁高龄她依然宝刀不老，再次重返影坛，自编自导了影片老相好群英会。第25页Background information艾瑞克弗洛姆(Erich Fromm，19001980)，德國猶太人。為逃避納粹迫害，逃亡美國，於一九三四年加入美國籍。他是二十世紀著名心理學家、社會學家和哲學家，人本主義精神分析學說創始人。在心理學中，他是精神分析社會文化學派代表人物和集大成者；在哲學中，他又是法蘭克福學派和西方馬克思主義代表人物之一。第26页Language points1. Babies and children deprived of love have kn

30、own to develop a wide variety of problemfor example, depression, headaches, physiological impairments, and neurotic and psychosomatic difficultiesthat sometimes last a lifetime. (Para. 1)deprive sb of sth.: 剥夺；使丧失e.g. He was deprived of his rights to education. 他被剥夺了受教育权利。 impairment: the fact that

31、a part of your body is unable to do something fully （身体机能）受损 e.g. a hearing impairment 听力受损 第27页2. Among other things, people who like themselves are more open to criticism and less demanding of others. (Para. 3)among other things: 除了别以外，另外e.g. 1) Shes very keen on sport; among other things, she pla

32、ys tennis twice a week. 2) At the meeting they discussed, among other things, recent events in Japan.demanding: (指人)对他人要求高, 苛求 e.g. Children are so demanding: they need constant attention. 第28页3. Love has many dimensions. (Para. 5)dimension: an aspect of a situation that influences the way that you

33、think about the situation 方面；部分 e.g. 1) There is a dimension to the problem that we have not discussed. 2) There is a political dimension(政治色彩） to the accusations. 第29页4. Although love may involve passionate yearning, respect is a more important quality. (Para. 6)yearning: n. a strong desire or feel

34、ing of wanting something 向往，思慕， 渴望 e.g. 1) He had a deep yearning to return to his home town. 2) I suppose its because I live in a crowded city that I have this yearning for open spaces. 第30页5. Even during the preteen years, romantic experiences are cultured in the sense that societal and group prac

35、tices and expectations shape romantic experience. (Para. 10) preteen: of, relating to, characteristic of, or designed for preteens 13岁以下儿童 e.g. preteen fashions 青春期前儿童时装societal: relating to a particular society, or the way society is organized 社会 e.g. societal changes 社会变革 societal forces 社会势力 第31页

36、6. Regan and Berscheid (1999) differentiate between lust, desire, and romantic love. (Para. 11)differentiate: to see or show a difference between things= distinguish 识别；看出差异e.g. 1) Neil is color-blind and cannot differentiate between red and green. 2) Its sometimes hard to differentiate one sample f

37、rom another. 第32页7. Once desire diminishes, disappointed lovers may wonder where the “spark” in their relationship has gone and may reminisce regretfully (and longingly) about “the good old days”. (Para. 11)diminish: to become less, or to make something become less （使）变小；（使）降低 e.g. Suddenly the wind

38、 diminished and the sea grew calm again. 突然风变小了，大海又平静了下来。reminisce: v. to recall or talk about past experiences, events, etc. 追忆往事，缅怀往事；回想，话旧e.g. We spent the evening reminiscing about our university days. 我们整晚都在回想我们大课时光。 第33页Useful Grammar in the Text1. By five years of age, they have been found to

39、 have significantly higher IQs and to score higher on language tests.2. When asked what love is, people give a variety of answers.3. Regan and Berscheid suggest that desire is an essential ingredient for initiating and maintaining romantic love.第34页非谓语动词使用方法1. 非谓语动词分类2. 非谓语动词特点3. 非谓语动词时态、语态改变4. 非谓语动

40、词在句中使用第35页指出以下句中非谓语动词使用方法It is not easy to master (mastering) a foreign language. They encouraged learning English by radio.The next train to arrive was from New York.We jumped with joy to hear the news.Dont get your schedule changed; stay with us.第36页1. The boss realized the importance of qualified

41、 staff, and urged all _ to participate in the training seminar. A. concerningB. the concerning C. concernedD. the concerned2. In Australia the Asians have made their influence _ in businesses, large and small. A. feelingB. feel C. felt D. to be felt 3. _ in a simple style, the book clearly describes

42、 the authors childhood experiences in a small town. A. Writing B. To be written C. Being written D. Written第37页True or False 1. According to the researches, children who have intimate relationship with their own families will show their strong ability to communicate, to get high school achievements,

43、 to react to possible stressful situations and to find good jobs. 2. Children from an unloving environment are likely to show emotional and social underdevelopment, language and motor skills retardation, and mental health problems. 3. According to the author, it is very difficult to give a single de

44、finition for love because of the various degrees , intensity and different social context of it. 第38页According to the author, people come together because of their cultural standards and principles as well as their destiny. 5 According to the expert, “stirring-the-oatmeal love” (Para. 7) means that p